We fall and pick ourselves up again...

I have been a silent follower since last year but will be posting a bit of my story.

I am 34 / 35 end of this year and have been trying to conceive since I was about 20 years old.

Now everytime I visited the gynaecologist they've told me everything was normal and as everyone else they've insisted that it was from my head and that if I stopped thinking about it it would come...

My husband and I now have been trying for the past 7years, we had an ectopic (2007/right tube removed) and a failed IVF (2009).

Since then we have tried to conceive naturally as docs said there was still some chance. To help increase those chances we tried everything we had been recommended (i.e vitamins, reinforced diet, acupuncture, relaxing breaks...).

There were a few times where I felt I was pregnant (heavy pms symptoms) and tested however none of them were +ve.

I decided to stop myself testing just to avoid more disappointments and have since been busy furthering my career and moving on with life.

I had a dye test last year (Feb) where I was told my everything seemed normal but my left tube was deformed. When I spoke with the consultant I asked if that would be the problem and was told that it wasn't but that they suspect suspected I was suffering from Endometriosis. As such I was offered a pelvic laparoscopy (with dye test) and Hysteroscopy to clear the Endometriosis and hopefully enhance our chances of conceiving naturally. That gave me a little window of hope and filled me with optimism 😊.

After along wait I finally had my surgery(2wks).

After my procedure I was told that I did not suffer from Endo however my tube was completely blocked hence my chances of Conceiving Naturally went from minimal to none😳.

I have been at home for the past couple of weeks now and can't wait to get back to work as it hasn't been easy to be alone with my thoughts ...

I am going back to see the consultant by the end of this month and have been offered another appointment in May for the fertility clinic .

Not sure of anything yet but I will post some news after my appointment 😉.

We've had our ups and downs , and on many occasions I just felt like giving up and started thinking of adoption however we are still going to give it another go at IVF (which was suggested by the consultant after my surgery).

So fingers crossed this time it will work and I pray that all of us going through the same pain and pressure manage to find peace and happiness .

GOOD LUCK EVERYONE 🍀

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi RRZ-DragLOVER. Goodness me – that’s an amazing username!! Reading your history, it is obvious that you have already been through so much heartache – and optimism. It was sad to read that you have suffered an ectopic pregnancy, resulting in the loss of one of your fallopian tubes –and now to hear that your other tube is not functioning either. However, at the end of all these procedures and investigations, you do still have some hope, by way of IVF. Not too long now until you see your specialist again, and by then you will have rested a little too. If you would like me to email you my list of questions to ask at your clinic, I will gladly do that, as there may be one or two you haven’t thought of asking. You are still a nice treatable age, so I do wish you both well with whatever is decided for you and for the happy ending you are looking for. [e-mail] Diane

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Thanks Diane, the came from my pets (green water dragons) initials 😊.

Many thanks for your reply and wishes.

I would be ever so grateful if you send me those questions.😃

I only one in mind , which is to remove the blocked tube as I read that it could affect our IVF cycle . Do you have any thoughts on this ?

Thank you for the encouragement ❤

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK in reply to Hidden]

Hi. How wonderful! My neighbour has an iguana – I’ve just got a cat!! Regarding tubes being deformed/blocked - Fallopian tubes have a natural lubrication in them to allow sperm to swim up and the egg to travel down. Occasionally, a deformed or blocked tube can become “shut” or the “fimbriae” (tentacles) stick together. This then blocks the “exit” for excess fluid to escape. There is then only one way out for this fluid and that is through the womb end of the tube. Many consultants now believe that this excess of fluid can prevent implantation of a developing embryo, as it can be “washed” out. Because of this the tube is often dealt with by removing it or clipping it. Remember too, that you would possibly be susceptible to another ectopic, which you definitely don’t want. Hope that explains it for you. Would you please email me your email address so that I can send you the list, as I can’t attach them here. All my emails are completely confidential, only I see them, so no worries there. Diane

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😃 a cat is very nice too.

Thanks for your reply, it was extremely useful and clear.

In regards to my email, I will send it to your personal email if you send it to me first.

Hope butyou understand but I do not wish to post it here.

Regards

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi. My email address is: [e-mail] If you contact me on that I will send the "questions" to you. Diane