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1st Ivf/icsi cycle feeling very emotional!


I am new to this site but I am hoping talking to others well help me as I start my first IVF cycle. We had are appointment on Thursday and got all the medication. Start taking tablets on Tuesday but since the appointment I have been feeling really emotional and alone. I am so scared it won't be successful.

Would really appreciate hearing other people's experiences and just to know i'm not alone and others are going through the same thing.

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Hiya tracey, Ivf/icsi is a very emotional time for all of us who go through it. I am on the final stages of my second round of icsi and it has been an emotional rollercoaster. By talking to people on this site not only r u getting things off ur chest but also u will be getting helpful advise from people who do actually understand how u r feeling. I hope it all goes well for you. Keep us posted lol.

Hi Tracey. We've done one cycle of icsi. It is a very emotional and stressful time for you both. It's hard to stay positive, I struggled. I was new to this site when we started our cycle too. Found it helped a lot because people who haven't struggled to conceive don't understand how hard it is to deal with. Good luck with your cycle. Fingers crossed for you.

Thank you for posting. It is nice to know that you are not alone. I think you are right friends who conceive easier don't understand how frustrating it can be. Two of my best friends have had two babies each in the time we have been trying and whilst i am really happy for them a part of me finds it really difficult. Fingers crossed it will be our turn next.

Thanks again.

Hi Tracey,

I have also done IVF (3 fresh cycles in the last 18 months and then a frozen cycle, which has recently resulted in pregnancy) As the others have said, it's v normal to feel emotional during IVF - although that doesn't make it any easier! The only advice I can give is - look after yourself, try not to take on too much extra at the moment (socially, or at work etc) and get some good comedies in for those nights when you feel like enjoying a feel good film. Also, don't be afraid to ask questions at your IVF clinic, even if they seem to be on quite minor issues. It's good to get reassurance, and the clinic will have met lots of other people in your position - naturally feeling anxious and wanting to check things out with them.

Am wishing you lots of luck for you IVF journey.

Tracey34 in reply to Noper

Thank you for the advise, I will definitely look for some feel good films to watch and use the next few weeks as an excuse to pamper myself a bit. Congratulations on your pregnancy and thanks again.

Hi Tracey34,

It's a difficult time - I found I expected to feel relieved when they started treatment or at least a bit more positive about the whole thing but when it actually began i found it so distressing. Everyone who heard the news was like 'Woo-hoo!!' but I just wanted to curl up and cry myself dead. I guess it was just finally realizing that infertility is real, happening, and now. It's a lot to take in.

But forgive yourself for being shocked and upset, it's only natural you should find this frightening. It's good to cry and a friendly shoulder is best, a good pal with a big teapot can work wonders. Especially if there's cake. We all fear we're not going to succeed but as you travel down this path you'll find yourself tested to the limits of your endurance, considering options you hadn't even dreamed would be possible, accepting truths that strike at the core of you and yet somehow you will find a peace between hope and despair. Your limits will increase, your mind will expand and you will find an inner strength you didn't know you had. If you remember to stop and smell the flowers on the way, to be grateful for small pleasures and kindnesses, you will find your journey is a little easier.

And be good to yourself. By eating right and getting exercise you will feel more balanced and in control. Take it one day at a time, love. And don't spend too long looking up stuff on the internet, it will only scare you, your med team will be happy to answer any questions you may have. Any, really.

May the wind be at your back



Thank you so much for taking the time to reply to my post. It is really nice to know that the feelings i have are normal and others have gone through the same thing. I'm not very good at looking after myself and find it difficult to say no at work. Reading the posts that people have been kind enough to write makes me realise that its ok to pamper myself a bit without feeling guilty (i will work on that). I have found reading these relies very heart warming and comforting so thank you all. X

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