Second ICSI Cycle - Feeling v stressed

[Nina420]

Hello All,

I am due to start my second round of ICSI tonight with a change in protocol. I am usually pretty laid back and relaxed, but I am feeling very worked up and anxious since I got the go ahead from baseline scan yesterday.

I think it’s not helping that OH went away in a golf night last night, with boxes of beer in the car. I’m so upset and angry with him and really questioning if I should even go ahead with stims tonight.

It really is so hard financially and on relationships. I am questioning everything here at the moment!

[Anoncasper]

Hi Nina,I’m also on my second round. Been on stims for 4 days now and feeling a little anxious too.

I know that, like me, you will be desperate for a baby but IVF definitely takes over our lives and mentality too. It can get so so hard and all we think about.

I seen a counsellor last time as I felt overwhelmed by it all and she advised to try and keep life as normal as possible.

My OH was on a night out on Thursday and drank. Not heavily but he drank.

I think sometimes they need an escape from it all too. I know sometimes IVF is all I talk about so I don’t mind if he needs an escape for a night. Just as long as it’s not all the time.

Please don’t let this put you off and I’m sorry if you feel I’m speaking out of turn.

It’s you and him going on this journey together no one else. So do what is right for you both.

I wish you all the luck in the world xxx

[Nina420 in reply to Anoncasper]

Thank you for the lovely reply Anoncasper. You are right, it is tough for our OH’s too.

I think I completely overreacted now to be honest. It’s so completely out of character for me and it really took us both by surprise. There is just so much riding on this cycle I suppose and I really felt like he was being very inconsiderate. We have made up since, and day 2 is done now. I am feeling calmer and more myself (for now!).

I wish you all the very best too. It is nice to have a virtual pal on the same journey. We will have to keep each other posted. 💓

[Anoncasper in reply to Nina420]

You are very welcome. I think it’s very easy to get lost in the moment and lose our temper. I’ve done it lots of times. These hormones don’t help either! 🙈

Thank you so much! I’m here for you anytime and excited to know how you get on. Please keep me updated and I’ll do the same 💕

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Nina. Have you had any counselling? If not there is a charity called the British Infertility Counselling Association who deal solely with fertility problems and relationships. There is a charge and you need to access them at bica.net good luck! Diane

[Nina420]

Hi Diane, thanks a million for your reply. You are right. I wish we had booked a session sooner. Things have settled now and we are both a lot more mellow but I will be booking a few sessions for after this cycle, regardless of the outcome. Thank you for the advice 💓