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DATING WITH ED....INDEED ABUSIVE? CAN BE

This is an example of the abuse we guys with PC and no hard cock have to deal with. After 5 years of no sex , I broke down and started to explore the dating world again. First time out and I get this: " What you can't get hard, why you are no better than a women." Seriously> CAN YOU IMAGINE Looking someone in the face and INSULTING THEM LIKE THIS" I am at a loss.....

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That is absolutely abhorable. When I think there is a chance of a sexual encounter. I have been telling people I have to use a pump but can get hard. I have not been meet with cruel was yet, curiosity yes. It is suorisinf how many people do not have a clue about ED.

I know you do not like the pump. But if you could include it more as a toy the other person may try it may get a little different response. But ai totally agree about the dynamics. All most guys are interested in whether a top or bottom is a hard dick.

I am sorry you have to endure this. You are handsome and I am sure have nice goods whether hard or soft.

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This is what excatly i say to others! If girls say: look I don’t feel like having sex for a while or i am not really active in bed, we should understand them otherwise we become arseholes or pricks for not respecting women or we only see girls as sextual objects! But when it comes to men, they have all rights to insult us for not being able to perform which is not our own fault whatsoever! I’ve experienced all different abuses by them verbally, physically etc. name it! so i am very familiar

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Now you can understand why I just don't date anymore. For every six Encounters of abuse, I get one that is someone understanding. However the rejection takes on different forms. Usually it's not as blatant is the one I just posted. Normally it's very quiet comments such as:" oh I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things go better for you." That's telling me I'm not really interested and go find someone else without saying it

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I say Hang in there, the right one will come along and will make you happy. You can still have sex without a hard Dick. Just my opinion, there will be some out there to accept you as you are. I would never give up... Piss on the ones that insult you! They are probably not worth a damn any ways!

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but there is but there is something to be said about feeling complete when a person is sexually satisfied. There's an emotional calmness that goes along with that

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You are not alone.. after years of having a great sex life after i had my surgery I stopped dating .. I haven been inmate since 4 years.. and probably won’t ever again .. I get the same reaction as you and got tired of the abuse.

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Yesterday and today I've been just sitting on the couch talking to friends relatives who gratuitously share with me the romantic experiences my only responses that's nice I'm happy for you. Mean while, I sit here with thoughts in my mind of my own romantic desires. I realize even after exploring various social groups, I have not found,what appears, to be the extreme minority of others, who would actually be understanding of my situation. Makes no difference that I keep myself an excellent shape going to the gym 3 times a week. Apparently that's not enough.

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in addition, had no idea that having this operation would be socially devastating. I wonder if I would have been more happy if I would not have had the operation, I wonder if I would have been more happy if I would not have had the operation, let's the disease take its course whatever that would be . on second thought, the end result may not have been any different. If the partner ever found out you have prostate cancer they would drop you anyway

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I feel bad because you are so young, I just turned 62 at the time.. after I decided to fill my life with other things I love doing and stop focusing on what I don’t have but what I do. It is still hard listening to friends talking about their love life but now I decided I want to fall in love with “ someone’s brain” not what I was focused on before..

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Is also the human need a physical touch. I have not been hugged or anything in over 5 years. I need more than just looking at pictures like some suggested. I go to the gym 3 times a week keep myself an excellent shape. My friend says why do you bother keeping yourself in such good shape you don't do anything with anyone. No that was encouraging. I keep myself in shape for myself to stay healthy. I'm also 62. Many say that I look much younger. I think working out at the gym most of my life has helped maintain that

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Wow, I feel exactly the same way, and I know we are not alone either.. their has got to be lots of other men having the same feelings. Their are lots of things I miss, intimacy especially but.. we never know who we will meet in the future, and someone will like us the way we are..:-)

just know you are not alone..

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everything you say is true. It's just I am now 62 and God knows how much longer I can still stay in shape and be presentable

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I workout mainly for myself and to stay healthy ...for years I have said “ big pecs an big arms will get you laid “but like I said I’m looking for a brain now and a brain is going to see beyond pecs and arms.. I think judge Judy said “ beauty fades but stupid is forever “ lol .. now, I’ll take a brain anyday :)

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I have I have three master's degrees in medicine Psychotherapy and disability management. My family and the grated to the United States from Italy. I also speak Spanish in English. That brain enough for you?

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Sorry for the misunderstanding, I wasn’t calling you names.. I was referring to the people I use to date when I quoted JJ

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I did not take it that you were doing that but were being supportive expressing your desires which is a good thing sir

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Vitruviusman...I'm going to chime in here as I've been reading your posts and maybe this may (underlined) help.

If a couple focuses on the penis as the only potentiator of love making then it sounds to me like you keep setting yourself for failure. Why not instead begin to imagine alternatives to gratifying your partner and yourself ONLY with your penis? I'd suggest reading about "conscious lovemaking".... and remember our most powerful sexual organ The Brain.

sexualwellnessnews.com/sexy...

meetmindful.com/conscious-l...

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Borisbafenough, it's not me it's my partner's. When they hear that I can't get hard they literally lose interest. You can't squeeze blood out of a stone. If they don't have interest there's nothing you could do about it

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I understand I get it...I suppose that being in a committed relationship before diagnosis (and surgery at 68 yrs old) allows me the luxury of my reply.

HOWEVER I can't believe that there isn't someone out there for you.

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if you if you have followed my previous post, I indicated that those men that were married or in a committed relationship Fair a hundred percent better than those that are not in a relationship. You've proven my point. You are spared the abuse, the gratuitous abuse that's too many others feel the need to bestow upon others. I now look upon it like watching TV and then go home alone

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So sorry that someone said that to you. I've experienced the loss of starch in my member for eight years now since my prostate was taken out robotically and some people have made comments about the loss of starch in my member. All I can tell you is to move on, F-em..they are not worth the worry

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Indeed

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