Sex after laparoscopy

[pinktiger33]

I was just wondering how people got back into having sex after their laps and how you felt about it.

I’ve always had a really high libido and enjoy sex quite often (even though I often experience pain after and sometimes during). It’s only been just over a week since my lap (endo diagnosed and removed from uterus and ovaries) but I feel completely the opposite to usual. The thought of having sex makes me panic. I am really worried it will hurt, and I’m worried about the coil which was inserted during my lap too (my last coil became dislodged and caused lots of pain during sex). I’m basically worried about being worried too as I keep thinking I’m not going to be able to have normal sex again!

Any stories about having sex again after laps or advice on what you did to make it easier/ get back into feeling normal about having sex would be really appreciated.

Thanks in advance.

[Chrysta123]

Hey,

The main bit of advise I would give is listen to your body and decide if you think you have healed enough and feel ready for it. I would also say talk to your partner about it, I put off even attempting to have sex for about 6 weeks I think and it was only when my boyfriend asked when I would feel comfortable to start having sex again that I told him how worried/nervous I was and I found talking to him about it really helped as it meant he knew to take it easy and he understood how I felt rather than thinking I just didn’t want to have sex anymore so maybe try that?

I don’t think it is uncommon to feel worried after a lap though, lets face it our insides were messed about with and it isn’t like the visible scar that we can see has healed!

I hope that helps a bit

[pinktiger33 in reply to Chrysta123]

Thank you, I think that’s a good idea for me to talk to my partner about it.

[caroljane80]

Id say and i know it might sound unspeakable ( but im sure alot of people do ) have a go yourself ya know with a toy or something similar clean hygenic get a feel for whats going on how your body is responding etc. I thought it was just a lap to look. I had a lap and cyst removed the first time and i had sex with a guy i really liked about 2 weeks or even sooner after. We were both a bit cautious but i was a bit carefree then said well its in my tummy up here ( which s where my pain had been but now blissfully had gone ) i was releived it had gone. I had a coil once ha dit taken out well before endo started it was agony and the pain went as soon as it was gone. So i dont know with you really. If the coils hurting you id get rid and use someother protection if thats what you need. My endo did come back a few years later and remained for a sorry saga of over 15 years . Ive had a hystorectomy by lap with ovary removal took me a year or so to pluck up courage to have sex again. It hadnt helped . Im ok now ish goodness knows why but i lost my job through sickness etc and the psychological damage and people disbeleiving ( work gp, surgeons etc ) nor prescribing pain meds ( that one really pissed me off - you could get addicted yeah i know but i may also not be able to cope I know i cant cope like this please - no one listened so i ended up on the black market and deep web and expensive !!!! nor were medics helping was beyond the joke. My health service didnt help they argued then turned their backs i went private multiple times my mum paid i paid. I tried to sue nhs ( shame on me ) no success . Anyway thats the story for me . Nothing to do with sex but you might get an idea and maybe tell the person to go easy at first . Hope that helps in someway Best wishes . IM pretty much pain free able to have sex but living at home lol and single ish although ive a few potentials their messy situations lol story of my life good luck sure youll be fine hugs xxx