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Depressed due to Endo pain, IVF and abortion

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Hi friends, I am new here but I wish to share few personal things with you for suggestions.

Since 4 years, I am trying to get pregnant. I had bad menstrual pains, pains during urination and bowel movement. I took birth control pills for a year and stopped as we want to try for a baby. It never happened, so I approached fertility clinic where they told my hormones are great but maybe, I have endometriosis. They did laparoscopy last year February and told me I have endo stage 3 with kissing ovaries and fallopian tubes need pressure to pass the dye they used for testing. They suggested me to go for IVF. We tried naturally to conceive for another 6 months waiting for a miracle to happen. But nothing happened. I started my ICSI-IVF, despite of my husband’s excellent sperm quality, as doctor suggested it. I also got mild ovarian hyperstimulation due to 15 eggs in which 6 were fertilized. My fresh cycle and cryo cycle failed. I got pregnant in my 2nd cryo cylcle this year January. I was so happy that it finally worked. But after 11 weeks baby´s hear beat stopped. They did D&C (abortion) in end of March. I was devastated, depressed. I had extreme pains during all surgeries including egg retrieval. Now after 3 months, trying to cope up with the current situation my Endo pain started. I am having really bad pain during bowel movement and urination. I went to gynec, she told everything looks fine. I don´t know what can I do? Can I proceed to other IVF cycle or do I have to go for another laparoscopic surgery before it? Whenever, I have this pain it remembers me that I am unable to become pregnant. I really hate this...

Please let me know your opinions and sorry for my English. I am not a native speaker.

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Hi Sarabravo,

I am really sorry to read your post.

I myself haven't had experience of IVF but I just wanted to let you know, in addition to the forum we also have our support groups (both local and online) and our telephone helpline if you ever need anyone to talk to: endometriosis-uk.org/get-su...

Please do not feel alone in this.

Best Wishes

M Mary

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sarabravo in reply to MMary-Moderator

Thank you

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Jesska

Hello,

I just want to send you some love this really touched me. Not much I can say on it as I am confused with my fertility at the moment. All I want you to know is, that you are an incredible woman and I hope you are able to have a baby as soon as possible. All my love Jess.

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sarabravo in reply to Jesska

Thanks alot for your warm words jess :-)

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Jesska in reply to sarabravo

No problem and I mean it.x

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WaywardGirl

I’m sorry to hear what a tough time you’ve been having.

I am 41 and had 2 laparoscopies in 2016 to diagnose severe infiltrating endo on my bowel and Pouch of Douglas (and rule out cancer). They also did a little bit of unsticking things which helped a little.

We started IVF about a year ago and I am currently 8 weeks pregnant from a frozen transfer on our 3rd attempt.

My understanding, in my case at least, was that there may be some advantage to having the endo treated to improve fertility but that there was also a risk of damage to ovaries etc from the surgery. This, coupled with my age, is what led us to press on with IVF before getting the endo fully sorted (ironically I had just had a pre-op assessment when I found out this cycle had been successful!).

It’s so hard to know what is the best thing to do. The choice we made meant I had some horrendous and painful cycles as the ivf drugs and treatment aggravated everything, so you need to take into account how well you would cope with your periods during the IVF. It can be a really long process and you need to make sure you don’t totally sacrifice your quality of life.

Sorry for the long ramble, I just wanted to share my experiences.

Good luck with whichever path you take x

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sarabravo in reply to WaywardGirl

Congratulations :-) stay healthy, strong and happy during this time. I really hope everything goes well for you. Thanks for letting me know your case and your kind words it really encourages me. I am planning to take one more round this month. Doctor said my NK (natural killer) cells are higher than usual number. So she thinks that might be the problem during my previous misscarraige. I am undergoing intralipid treatment now. She suggested to go for an other IVF round instead of an other laproscopy. I hope it will go well.

Good luck for you too :-)

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