So long story short, I’ve been waiting for a diagnostic +/- treatment lap - was referred back in October last year and after moving Trusts once, in the hope of being seen outside of London sooner, I’ve been told at my preop today the minimum wait is 16 weeks. This was very upsetting for me as I have been in daily pain since October which has had a significant impact on my job (I’ve had 3 months off work and am worried about losing my job), my relationship, friends and just my general outlook on life is reaching rock bottom. I miss being able to go outside and see my friends, beIng intimate with my partner, being able to sleep at night, feeling attractive... Feeling in a very bad place at the prospect of waiting a minimum of 4 months to be seen and effectively losing a year of my life waiting for surgery. I can’t afford to go private however my mum has offered to lend me the money to have this operation done privately. I have very mixed feelings about this for several reasons:
* It’s a lot of money to have to pay back - I don’t have a huge salary - ironically I work for the nhs
* I’m terrified they won’t find anything and I’ll be effectively throwing money away
*I don’t know how long the wait is for private treatment and if it would be any shorter than the wait I’m looking at
* I know very little about the quality of the surgeons, whether I can get a specialist or not and what the general care is like
What I wanted to ask was to those people who have gone down the private route - where can I find more information about who to look at, prices, reputable surgeons and just in general what your experiences of the private system have been - care, timing etc
Would really appreciate anyone taking the time to reply as I’m just at my end. I really feel I can’t cope much more. I feel like my life has been ruined.