I just ignore family members and friends who do this to me. Sometimes you have to put your own health first. You can not always be there for others when you do not feel 100%.
I no longer give them any attention. It's hard at first but they get the message in the end. If you do not feed there narcissistic behaviour they are forced to deal with things on their own. It's a jealousy like response you get when they can not have their own way.
My mother I suspected has endometriosis but she has been classed as being clinically depressed. She has always been jealous of how I try to stay positive. When she is suck as a negative person. It's all most like she gets a kick out of feeling negative and making everyone's life around her miserable with her controlling ways. I have had nothing to do with her for the last 28 years. It's the only way I could cope. My mother's narcissistic behaviour became violent when I was 16 and the police advised me to stay away from her for my own safety.
My Father had COPD later in life and died 4 years ago aged 61. due to his lungs collapsing. He had a alcohol problem all his life and I was forever having to sort him out. He made life very stressful at times.I believe my mother was the cause of his stress and anxiety. The only way he could cope was through alcohol. My mother destroyed him.
My parents split up when I was five and it was world war 3 for 40 years of my life till my dad died.
My dad's family disowned me when he died 4 years ago. I have panic attacks and very bad anxiety if I have to deal with any of them now.
My mother turned her side of the family against me. She told them a pack of lies over the years. They now know that non of her lies are true. My mother tried to destroy me, but I will not let her.
I am now on my own with my boyfriend and our dogs.I have not been able to have children due to the endometriosis. Life is calmer and my body has decided it's time to deal with all the stress. hence the cyst and the endometriosis diagnosis. Now I just take each day as it comes and I start a new day as a fresh positive day. I deal with everything life throws at me in the best way I can. There are good days and bad days.
My advice would be. Do what is right for you in that present situation. Don't back down to demands and remember your body can only take so much stress. When you have reached your limit and can not cope. You need to start looking after yourself and give yourself some love. At the end of the day the only person who knows how you think and feel is yourself. So do what is best for you.
Take care, you are stronger than you realise.