Why do I heal so badly?

[Booo79]

Hi all

I'm 37 and had my second laproscopy on Monday after a two year break in between the first and last and 6 months of debilitating pain pre-monday's op. This time, they removed my left tube, tested the right with dye (its not functional) and lasered endo from my ovary and removed cysts.

I don't really remember much about my last lap. It was done under emergency as I was in such a tangle with pain and they didn't really know the cause then.

I'm really struggling this time with pain in both ovaries, the gas (still ongoing), fatigue and nausea. And I feel really overwhelming sad about the outcomes of my dye test as in the last year I've finally met a man who I would love to make a family with only to find out that we probably can't. Sucks, right?

I read on here a lot and hear about women having laps one week and being back at work a week later. But I still feel like I've been hit by a train and haven't left the house yet.

Am I the only one? Is it in my head?

[Starry]

Hugs. You get the odd lucky person who bounces back after a light diagnostic lap, but I think longer recoveries are more typical especially so if you have had significant treatment which which you have in the removal of a tube.

It's important to not compare your recovery to others as we are all unique and there are lots of factors that cause recovery times to vary by person. You need as long as you need and the internal healing process can take up to 12 weeks.

This doc outlines why recovery times vary and describes the body's internal healing process.

centerforendo.com/is-my-end...

I took me 5 weeks after my cyst removal and diagnostic to go back to work and I suffered chronic post op fatigue. This time I have just had to extend my six week leave of absence though surgery was quite major.

[Booo79 in reply to Starry]

Starry, thank you for this and for taking the time to reply. It's hard not to doubt myself and my body. I think I'm probably quite depressed atm which isn't helpful to healing.

[Starry in reply to Booo79]

I feel for you X

The anaesthesia can do that, not to mention post op pain and Endo itself wearing you down.

I am struggling alot emotionally as well tbh, with low mood and anxiety problems.

It's taken a lot out of me and I think it is gonna be a while yet before any spark comes back.

Be gentle on yourself, all we can do is give it time. XXX

[Booo79 in reply to Starry]

I'm sorry to hear that Starry. I hope you have people around you who understand. It is so difficult to convey the pain and sadness of something that's invisible to others. Xx

[Stellauk]

It is early days for your recovery, you will need at least 2-4 weeks to physically recover. It must been a blow to hear the news regarding your fertility issue. You may want professional help and time to reconcile with this. It is natural to feel sad with both physical and mental situations. Take you time and you will turn the corner soon.

[Cardiff_shell]

Not in your head and definitely not the only one!

I'm finally attempting to return to work tomorrow 4.5 weeks after a lap and hysteroscopy to remove endo and a large fibroid.

I must admit it's probably been the most frustrating 4.5 weeks of my life and it's probably only been the past 3-4 days I've felt even remotely normal xx