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Fear of laproscopy!!god pls save my tubes

Hi i am 29 married fr 1.5 yrs.m going in fr a lap on monday morning for endo and pcos, also my right tube is haematosalpinx, doctor is not sure of left tube....doctor said she will take the decision when she goes in.i am very scared of op n plus this problem of tube if they remove it!! I dont have any kid.god pls be kind to me 😣😣 is it really scary to go in for lap????

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Hi Hun, I have had many laps over the last 5 years as I too suffer with severe endo and now have a frozen pelvis as a result of it. I'm too going in for another op on Monday to try and have both my tubes removed also. You will be fine Hun. You will be sore and uncomfortable for the first couple of days but normally bk up walking and about within 24 hrs post op. Unfortunately my symptoms post op haven't improved much at all but I'm probably the minority as I've heard many ladies who notice significant improvements in their pain and symptoms. I'd suggest taking at least 2 weeks off work so you can recover fully. Just don't over do it and push your self too much. Try and enjoy being cared for a while 🤕👍💗


You'll be fine trust me, if I can handle it anyone can. Good luck xx


I had two lap, one very extensive. It is really not bad. Make sure you start on movicol asap, and try to walk about as much as possible. A rest for a couple of weeks then you should able to go back to work.

All the best



I see that you are due for lap surgery Monday, and understand that you are scared. As you can see from the replies you've already had, many women on this site have had lap surgery - some of us have had several. I've had 4 laps for Endo and radical excision of Deep Endo. It can seem daunting at times, especially because your Endo already causes symptoms such as pain. Nobody chooses to have Endo, and therefore the fact that you end up having to go for surgery can feel a little imposed upon you, too.

Still, it's clear that plenty of us cope with having surgery, and doubtless, you will too. Whilst it can seem frightening, it's always advisable to try to stay as calm as you can. The more scared you get, the more you may actually panic yourself - so do try to remain rational. The calmer you are, the more in control of the situation you are. Remaining calmer means that you have a better chance of being prepared for the surgery - and of remembering to do things that you may have planned as aids to help you get through.

Lap surgery is under general anaesthetic, so you ought not to be aware of anything, and feel no pain. Some women can be frightened of needles - if you are, tell the anaesthetist, who may do things to help you. They can sometimes put gel or ointment on your hand to lessen the sensation of any needles. They can also do things to distract you. If you have had surgery in the past, and have problems with anaesthetic, such as it makes you sick, again tell the anaesthetist. It is possible to give patients anti-emetic medication before surgery that may reduce the likelihood of their being sick following anaesthetic, so if you are at risk of being sick, mention this to the anaesthetist.

Hospitals often provide patients with leaflets about lap surgery, and these usually contain instructions, and advice about what to expect in relation to the surgery. DO follow any advice that your hospital gave you. This may include advice about preparing for the op (when to stop eating, what you can and can't drink before the op). There may also be information about what to bring with you to the hospital.

Some lap surgeries are just day cases with no overnight stay. However, it is always a good idea to take p.j.s or a nightie with you to the hospital, in case you do end up staying. Also, take slippers and a dressing gown (hospital gowns can be a little revealing!). Don't take valuables such as jewellery and watches. Do take some spare, loose fitting clothes with you for after the surgery. Lap surgery involves using gas to inflate your abdomen so the surgeon can have a good look around in there for Endo. This gas can make you feel bloated and tender after the op, so it's always advisable to have some comfy clothes to put on (elasticated, stretchy ones). Loose clothes are also good, because the lap incisions are generally near your navel and bikini line (they are not big incisions), and can be tender, so you don't want clothes pressing against them. If you know you may be waiting around before you go to the operating theatre, take a book or magazine to while away the time. Some people take their mobile phones, so that they can contact family and friends after the op - especially if you are relying on somebody to take you home after surgery.

DO expect some pain and discomfort following surgery. The gas used to inflate your abdomen can cause shoulder pain and tenderness. It also causes bloating and soreness in your abdomen. This can take time to subside, but things like peppermint tea or ginger tea may help take the edge off it. ALWAYS follow any instructions the hospital gives you regarding rest and recuperation, and taking painkillers. Depending on what was found during surgery, and how extensive your surgery was, recovery can take up to six weeks. Your hospital may give you guidelines.

Travelling home after surgery can be a bit unpleasant. You may feel travel sick as a result of anaesthetic, so ask for something to take with you from the hospital to be sick into if you feel this may happen on the way home (hospitals often have grey cardboard bowls for this purpose). Ask whoever is taking you home to bring a cushion or pillow with them which you can use to protect your stomach if it feels tender - or which you can use as a headrest if you feel very sleepy. Anaesthetic takes some time to wear off, so you may feel very sleepy for a while after surgery.

Once home, again, follow any instructions the hospital gave you. Rest - do not attempt exercise or strenuous activity like household chores. You may have stitches, or dissolvable glue, on your incision wounds. Make sure you keep the wounds clean and dry - don't bathe until you are told you can (if in doubt, ask the hospital). If your wounds get red, itchy, smelly, discharging of inflamed PHONE THE HOSPITAL OR YOUR GP QUICKLY as you may have an infection.

Overall - take it easy, and know that other women survive lap surgery, so will you. Know, too, that your doctor will be doing the best he/she can to remove your Endo and to preserve your fertility. If you are really concerned about fertility issues, maybe you should alert the hospital to this fact so that you can seek reassurance. After the op, you will usually receive a date for a follow-up appointment. This is where you may get to find out what was discovered during your surgery. DO ask any questions you feel you need to. If you don't understand what the doctor is saying, ask for clarification. Ask, too, about further treatment and where to go from there.

Hope there is something here that helps. Wishing you good luck and hope the lap goes well. If you need further advice or support, you know this site is always here. Take care, E. x


Hi I was the same, terrified as never had a general before.

I asked for the numbing cream, a nurse out it in both hands , not knowing which they'd use. The nurses were brilliant and there if you need them. I Didn't feel a thing when the thing was out in back of my hand. I felt the coldness If the drip thing. Then he told me I was going to feel drunk... (Wow it felt great lol) Next he said u will be going to sleep. I then woke up, in a bed. It's a week n half since I had my surgery and still in bed resting lots. 1 wound is healed, just the stitch still there, belly button and one near my hip is still tender. And I still have pain.

But I know for my next surgery what to expect. ( Which I have been told I need) I really did make myself worse with worry.

Hope all goes well for you, xx


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