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Feeling down!!!

Hey everyone

So I'm now 12 weeks post laparoscopy and being diagnosed with severe Endo and around the same time two of my sisters have gotten pregnant two weeks between each other and I'm trying soooo hard to be happy for them but I can't help but feel awful about this jealous niggle feeling that I get when ever my family is talking about both there pregnancy's and then I start crying and feeling down its really starting to get me down and I don't know how to snap out of it I mean I really think it's just eating away at me that there is always going to be that small chance that I may not be able to have children or I'm going to find it difficult to get pregnant naturally etc but why is my head constantly thinking about that all the time I literally feel horrid I should be happy and able to talk about my sisters having children but I just can't 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

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Sorry to hear you're going through this! I understand how you feel. I am waiting to have my lap in October to get a diagnosis. My husband and I wanted to start trying for a baby this summer but because of all my symptoms and upcoming surgery, we had to put it on hold. Meanwhile, I was planning my sister-in-law's baby shower and celebrating my cousin's pregnancy! It's really hard being happy for them and then crying once you have a moment alone. I, too, feel horrible knowing it may be difficult to get pregnant while everyone seems to be having babies around me! I just take comfort knowing that medicine has advanced so far these days that there are many ways to help us have a baby when the time comes. So, just keep in mind there are options :)

For now, I'm just focused on figuring out what is going on and getting a final diagnosis. Any advice on preparing for the lap?


Thankyou for commenting Hun just feeling really awkward about it all tbh erm with regards to you laparoscopy make sure you have a shower or bath the morning before your surgery as you won't be able to have a bath for upto 2 weeks after your op but you can have a shower so many days after expect to be stiff and sore especially expect shoulder pain that's from the gas being trapped from the lap it should get better 2-3 days after your op I'd defo make sure you've got plenty of sanitary towels in as you may have bleeding afterwards don't push yourself too early you need a lot of rest after a lap because a lot of your organs have been moved around and the outside will heal before the inside so don't do anything strenuous make sure you've got plenty of pain killers in too if you need any more info or have any questions don't hesitate to write on here Hun hope all goes ok xxxxxxx


Thank you for the tips! I'm sure I'll have more questions but this site has been very helpful for me.

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Sorry to hear you going through this. Unfortunately it's not uncommon as depression is a side effect of endo. Do go and talk it over with your GP and maybe they can give you some anti depressants that can help you feel a bit more positive about things. You may also find talking to a counsellor useful.

Take care.


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