So sorry to hear you're going through such a lot, condolences on your Dad passing xx
Firstly I would say please don't worry about babies right now - I was diagnosed at 24, totally shocked and had a bit of a melt down feeling totally overwhelmed about 'baby stuff'.
Be kind to yourself and concentrate on YOU.
After surgery you will be sore in the endo area because that's where they've operated - it will take time for you to heal up 6-8 wks, but longer until you feel totally like yourself, even the anaesthetic takes a lot of time to go out of your system. Take it easy on yourself and try not to panic. Everyone's endo is different and reading about ladies with more severe disease can be frightening.- avoid worrying about that.
My best advice right now is get home and relax, sit in comfy clothes, watch your fave shows, have your friends over for chats, hug everyone ie. Do everything you can to feel calm and destress as this will aid a good recovery and help you to get the most out of the surgery. In a few months time you'll be able to assess how much the surgery has helped and if symptoms persist get your gp to refer you to an endometriosis specialist. Here is a list of specialist centres
Also two websites that have helped me manage my symptoms and understand more about the disease
You'll probably know the first one endo resolved has info on the endo diet.
I've cut out red meat, most dairy and plan to cut back majorly on wheat, also drinking a lot of peppermint and other herbal teas has really helped me which is really easy to do!
I can't emphasise enough you're 21 and going through so much at the moment. It's important to take time to grieve and recover properly right now before trying to plan your future or how to manage endo stuff. You and your partner obviously love each other very much and are studying for a better future for yourselves and prospectively any family you have. I know hearing that endo could affect your chance of a family is scary - it almost tore my relationship apart as I got so upset - now happily married! The whole experience of endo has made us stronger. Enjoy your studies and get qualified it's something you wanted for yourself before endo happened so don't let it take it away from you X
Your consultant should have written a letter to your gp detailing what was found in the op/diagnosis etc. - You can ask for this at your gp practice once you're feeling better. I think you should also have access to you med notes at hospital for more info.
Look for what stage of endo was found and where. If you have one tube affected - be positive - your ovaries and womb could be fine and you have one unblocked tube! Plus the endo has been tidied up which aids pregnancy
My husbands cousin had both tubes blocked and now has a beautiful little boy! There is plenty of treatment available if you need it in future to help you conceive.
Please don't be frightened. There are plenty of people around here who understand exactly how you feel and can offer support.
Be good to yourself and feel better soon