hi there I don't even know where to begin.. I don't know if she is depressed, has serious anxiety or mental health problems. My mum used to be the lady that everyone adored, she was fun friendly and loving and always had a chill outlook on everything but not anymore! it has been going on for years now id say around 8 years, maybe more. she started lacking in motivation for everything, everything is such a hard task and she is tired every day. she is becoming more and more reliant on others and has lost almost all independence. but that is just the beginning. she is always negative, you cant hold a conversation with her anymore which doesn't end up negative or she turns it into some kind of conspiracy that there's a negative plot behind it. I no longer want to tell her any good news I have going on in my life anymore or achievements as she will make me feel bad about it or turn it into a negative. she has these psychotic attacks where she will abuse everyone and accuse them of "purposely" doing something to spite her.. there are so many examples I could give but ill give the ones that really stood out. her now ex husbands kids (my ex step brothers) she always had a grudge against, for what reason no one will ever know she would always make up some crazy reason to isolate people from there kids, partners, friends ect. she once accused my ex step brother of placing a knife on the dinner table "pointing towards where she sits"... there was just a knife on the table... like who in the right frame of mind will see a knife on a dinner table which is highly common in a house and think it is some sort of hidden message to get her..!? and the arguments about it! she would abuse there father, the kids.. sadly there mother had committed suicide when they were young but in her rage she would say to the kids no wonder why your mother .... herself and other extremely hurtful things! it wasn't once in a blue moon she would do this it is weekly! there was a spider under an ornament and she accused my step brother of placing it there.. it started off other people but it is now starting to point towards my sister and I and our partners. her own daughters she thinks are out to get her.. the only person she talks too now other then my sister and I is her elderly mother who also suffers from anxiety and is medically diagnosed of being a hypochondriac. My mum also thinks she has some kind of medical condition everyday so im not sure if she is a hypochondriac also.. she no longer has any friends only one which she speaks to very rarely but has something bad to say about them every time she talks to them also. but the reason I am reaching out now is because she had another episode yesterday and I have seriously had enough now. my partner and I were in her car the other day while she was driving to my sisters house (it isn't even a 5 minute drive) her car is a mess, she smokes in it like there is no tomorrow but the day after she just happened to be cleaning her car out or something and discovered 2 cigarette burns in the back of her car. it could have been her from ashing out the window and its come back in, it could have already been there as the car is pre owned! but in that 5 minutes my partner didn't even have a cigarette, she was abusing him, telling him he is a serial burner!!?? and that he wont get away for purposly damaging her belongings and she knows he is doing it on purpose and called the police on him! she has still been abusing us both today and it is absolute craziness and I have had it of being abused and accused weekly and she is just pushing everyone away. my partner was almost in tears how badly she was abusing him and calling the police on him.. as he didn't do anything.. I have also been in tears numerous times of being constantly abused and accused of doing things that im not. im always cleaning up after her, and always doing the housework, I work full time and on weekends while she only works 3 4 hour shifts a week but I can just never get a break it is emotionally draining. we have to lock the bedroom door when she comes home now because we don't want her coming in a abusing us.. what can I do!? she does it to my sister aswell but she is out of home with a family. I am moving out in late august because I cant stand it anymore but I need to help her somehow before she destroys all her relationships but I don't know what to do!