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After my run today and a shower I went out a walk with the dog. There were 2 women ( mother and daughter) , the both of them said hello and commented on how much weight I'd lost. The mother said ' don't loss any more you look fine as you are and the daughter said ' maybe I should give up running and go back to walking.

I will admit I started running for weight loss and its worked really well.

I feel fitter , healthier and have such a positive mindset and I'm so pleased I started running because I really love it.

I just wonder what these people are thinking when making comments like this.

I told both of them ' I LOVE running and I don't think they understood why. But I know you all will.

Happy running 😁🀣

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ForestGrump63 profile image
ForestGrump6360minGraduate

I always get annoyed when people make comments about people's looks. It's none of their business. If you love running you should run and no ones opinion but your own matters

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Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toForestGrump63

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BeetrootFace77 profile image
BeetrootFace77Graduate10

Sounds to me like a big case of the green eyed monster, they compliment you with one hand and take away with the other. They are probably not happy with themselves and rather than do something about it they find it easier to berate you for doing something positive. Keep on running Buddy! :)

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Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toBeetrootFace77

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Allbarron profile image
Allbarron60minGraduate

I'm similar Buddy! I lost quite a bit then decided to run for fitness but the running is helping me maintain that loss. At the end of the day I want to be happy healthy and strong and running does that for me. You do you Buddy safe in.the knowledge that we get it πŸ‘

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Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toAllbarron

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AlMorr profile image
AlMorrAmbassadorGraduate10

Many people don't understand why runners run, that was a ridiculous comment telling you that you should stop running because you were thinner and had lost weight.

Running in itself won't make a person lose weight, what will is that they run AND go on a healthier diet or at least not have ate so much junk food as previously before they began running.

Congratulations on losing weight over the last few years and of course "keep on πŸƒπŸΎ running"

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toAlMorr

πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘

Flattttt profile image
Flatttttβ€’ in reply toAlMorr

Runners tend to lose weight.

If you run enough, it uses calories that the body is disenclined to eat back.

A quote comes to mind;

'The truth is incontrovertible. Malice may attack it, ignorance may deride it, but in the end, there it is.'

You are epic!

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply to

πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘

Oldgirlruns profile image
OldgirlrunsGraduate10

I think they were out of order really - very nice of them to comment on how well you look, but they should have left it there!

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toOldgirlruns

They probably want me to start smoking again also🀣🀣🀣

Speedy60 profile image
Speedy60Graduate10

Keep running and eat more cake! πŸ˜‰

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toSpeedy60

🀣🀣My daughter made a banoffe cake last week and i was good I only had 1 bit

AlMorr profile image
AlMorrAmbassadorGraduate10β€’ in reply toSpeedy60

Eat cake after you have run a 5K or 10K but not before 😊😏

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toAlMorr

Once a week AlMorr usually after Sunday dinnerπŸ˜ŠπŸ‘

AlMorr profile image
AlMorrAmbassadorGraduate10β€’ in reply toBuddy34

πŸ‘

ForestGrump63 profile image
ForestGrump6360minGraduateβ€’ in reply toAlMorr

Eat a big slice in front of them wearing a sign "will run for cake" πŸ˜‚

AlMorr profile image
AlMorrAmbassadorGraduate10β€’ in reply toForestGrump63

I eat a small cake for supper on a Saturday and Sunday night, from Tuesday to Friday I eat and drink for supper "morning rolls" and Green Tea.

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toForestGrump63

🀣🀣

HeavyFoot profile image
HeavyFootGraduate10

Look out for book called Nasty People. It’s all about invalidating behaviour, how to spot it, why it’s done and how to deal with it. Good luck!

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toHeavyFoot

oh don't worry its dealt with , next run Wednesday 🀣🀣

ForestGrump63 profile image
ForestGrump6360minGraduateβ€’ in reply toHeavyFoot

Just looked that up. Is it by Jay Carter?

HeavyFoot profile image
HeavyFootGraduate10β€’ in reply toForestGrump63

Yes, that’s right. Thanks for reminding me. It’s not a big book but really enlightening. β˜€οΈ

ForestGrump63 profile image
ForestGrump6360minGraduateβ€’ in reply toHeavyFoot

I like the sound of it. There's a kindle version too! Thanks for the tip πŸ‘

SueAppleRun profile image
SueAppleRunGraduate1060minGraduate

Ooo that huge green eyed monster, tubby people will always criticise slender people, tell them they have lost enough

You are amazing, fit healthy and strong, ignore them and carry on running and staying beautiful and strong

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toSueAppleRun

Exactly πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘

Mum22boys profile image
Mum22boysGraduate10

People say some strange things!! That doesn't even make sense!! Ignore them, keep running and keep knocking out those pb's 😊

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toMum22boys

Don't worry nothing could stop me running πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘

Fionamags profile image
FionamagsGraduate10

It never fails to amaze me how people think its OK to comment on how slim someone is or say that they are too slim! Your response might have been: "I'm feeling fantastic actually. What are you doing to improve your health?" Followed by a comment about their shape and size if you feel like stooping to their level ...

You blazed 10k today - you are untouchable!!! πŸƒβ€β™€οΈπŸ€Έβ€β™€οΈπŸ€—

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toFionamags

They are so different to me in a lot of ways and I could've said something along those lines . But the look on their face when I said I love running was enough 🀣

Speedy60 profile image
Speedy60Graduate10

Don't stop running. I need someone to give me all that kudos. πŸ‘

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toSpeedy60

🀣🀣as if I'd stop running

People who make comments like those made to you today often have low self-esteem themselves, however that doesn't excuse them making judgemental comments about others. It is a shame that they are unable to see the bigger picture and that they can't fully acknowledge all the effort and achievement that you have made.

You proved yourself the bigger person by coming back with such a positive comment. Don't worry - those who matter to you do "get it".

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply to

yes you're right πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘

Gwyrdd profile image
Gwyrdd60minGraduate

I have had someone saying to me β€œyou’re too thin’. (I’m not 8 stone is ok for 5’2”). I’ve not yet said β€˜and you’re too fat’ . As a child I was told that making personal remarks is rude.

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toGwyrdd

Yes I could've said a few things but like you said , I was always told if you've got nothing nice to say , say nothing πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘

ThriftyLesley profile image
ThriftyLesleyβ€’ in reply toGwyrdd

And if you had said β€˜you’re too fat’ it would have been deemed outrageous! Strange how it isn’t the other way round

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toThriftyLesley

I don't care what size anyone is . To me being a nice person is way more important 😊😊

Roxdog profile image
RoxdogGraduate10

Oh yes, we all understand. Whatever our motives for starting, once we are in love with running, that's what it's about.

I hate it when people comment on weight and give their opinions. It's nice to say people look fit and well, that's different.

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toRoxdog

yes it is πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘

Maddee_6333 profile image
Maddee_6333Graduate10

I’m bemused when people think they have a right to say things like that to other people.

Every time one of the medical team come to see me I preface things with β€˜I’m a runner, I want whatever option will allow me to run again.’

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toMaddee_6333

I'm with you on that MaddeeπŸ‘πŸ˜Š

Never mind me , how are you ?πŸ€—πŸ€—

roseabi profile image
roseabi

You definitely gave them the right answer 😊😊😊

The best one 'you look thin' comment I've had was the man who told me I 'obviously wasn't pregnant'. Actually maybe he just thought I looked old... hmmm πŸ˜„

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toroseabi

Some people just don't know when to shut upπŸ™„πŸ‘

roseabi profile image
roseabiβ€’ in reply toBuddy34

It's bizarre isn't it!!

dieOR5k profile image
dieOR5kGraduate10

My neighbor made a similar comment about being thin enuf. I thanked her and said I have more to go. It is a puzzling commentary, it I agree with folks here. People’s comments are more about themselves and their inner voices. We can only get good with ourselves.

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply todieOR5k

I had put on weight as I started eating massive amounts of chocolate after stopping smoking. All I've done is reversed this. πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘

Jell6 profile image
Jell6Graduate10

It annoys me Buddy!

I am (I think) normal size.

If I mention to people at work I am cold, they say "you need to get a few butties down you ", or similar.

It seems to be acceptable to mention someone's weight/size, if it's erring on the slim side.

Is it ok to say "you've porked out a bit" probably not.

I think part of the problem is we now see so many people in a higher weight range, we don't recognise normal as normal, we see it as underweight!!

I audited some risk assessments recently, and had to speak to staff who had incorrectly assessed patients as normal weight, when in fact they were in the overweight or obese category.

Hell, you seem to have set me off 🀣🀣🀣

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toJell6

Exactly , you've hit the nail on the headπŸ˜ŠπŸ‘

ForestGrump63 profile image
ForestGrump6360minGraduateβ€’ in reply toJell6

When I was in my early 20s I was naturally very thin and a woman at work made loud cruel comments about it in front of others regularly. T his went on for about a year and in the end, after a particularly cruel comment in front of her cronies I challenged her. I had actually snapped at this point and said something along the lines of " would you like it if I kept telling you that you were fat and needed to go on a diet" I'm not proud of my reaction. Anyway, she cried, I was hauled in front of the manager and got a verbal warning. She got nothing. It appears socially acceptable to pick on someone's appearance if they're thin πŸ™„

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toForestGrump63

I'm surprised you managed to put up with that for a year.

You only did to her what she did to you. Where was her verbal warning πŸ™„

ForestGrump63 profile image
ForestGrump6360minGraduateβ€’ in reply toBuddy34

I was fairly quiet at that age but changed a lot in that year πŸ˜‚ apparently because I hadn’t made a complaint about it previously no consequences for her. One of her regular comments was β€œif you get any thinner you’ll snap” I did snap, just not in the way she meant πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toForestGrump63

I understand I used to be a quiet person then things happen that toughen us up.

Good on you😁

Jell6 profile image
Jell6Graduate10β€’ in reply toForestGrump63

Totally agree. Your situation seems to have been very badly managed, how unfair.

CaptFrey profile image
CaptFrey60minGraduate

Society is programmed to think it’s ok to judge and comment On appearance. You were very dignified in your response.

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toCaptFrey

Oh yes I was dignified alright as I could have been there all day pointing out their unhealthy behaviour but its none of my business πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘

Stobban profile image
Stobban

Yea, Possibly they could be a tad jealous of the great way you look after shedding the pounds. I once shaved of my beard and dropped six stone in weight. Thereafter certain people commented, ''Oh I liked you better with the beard and heavier''. Sometimes you cant with. Good luck.

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toStobban

I've only went back to my weight i was before I stopped smoking . But now I'm a healthier me πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘

Blueboy5050 profile image
Blueboy5050

I feel for them, they are not well spiritually, perhaps when you see them next, offer them the C25k app, offer some support, perhaps say you would be happy to go out wth them on there first outing...I like to try as best I can to turn negs into positive. And even if they decline, you can have a great rest of your day as you offered kindness πŸ™πŸ˜‰

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toBlueboy5050

Thank youπŸ˜ŠπŸ‘

GreenBearxxx profile image
GreenBearxxx

The most important thing is no matter what your size is your happy and it probably shows i can only assume those making comments might not be as happy as you and probably feel a little green eyed?? running isn't as easy as it looks they probably a little intimidated on your confidence!! and on an opposite note I'm on the bigger side but I'm fit training to run 10k and run 6k at the moment three times a week and I get looks and sneers as if I couldn't be fit because I'm not thin...I suppose no matter what, people always have something to say...so stay happy!!

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toGreenBearxxx

You're right running isn't easy and we need a lot of determination.

I wasn't happy when overweight but I would never comment on someone's appearance. Good luck with getting to 10k😊😊

Picolla87 profile image
Picolla87Graduate10

The comments were so low you shouldn’t even be thinking about it I’ve lost loads of weight and I’ll keep losing until I’m where I want to be keep doing your thing you clearly look great xx

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toPicolla87

What running has done for me is about so much more than my weight loss. Its made me so much more positive and I'm happy when running, just me and my music and this forum is the best place ever😊

Picolla87 profile image
Picolla87Graduate10β€’ in reply toBuddy34

Well done to you keep it up! πŸ’ͺ🏼

Sybilw profile image
SybilwGraduate10

I know Rev Kate Botley blocks or deletes any comments on her Instagram that mention weight loss or similar as she recognises it implies former criticism. My mum told people in the care home I was running to lose weight - I wasn’t overweight!! It may reflect their experiences of school running When it seemed a punishment. πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toSybilw

I did start running to try and loose weight and I've always been honest about my reasons but never thought I would actually love running πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘

Sybilw profile image
SybilwGraduate10β€’ in reply toBuddy34

Neither did I! Started as hubby retired and daughter was on maternity leave (no grandchildren to run after) and I could hear the soda calling!

BOBOZ profile image
BOBOZGraduate10

Casual walkers and runners.

Two different planets.

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toBOBOZ

They don't walk anywhere and i mean anywhere but thats up to them . None of my business πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘

WannabeAthlete profile image
WannabeAthlete

From life experience women do not think logically and say the first thing that comes into their heads. I have 2 daughters and a mad wife that I love dearly. The only exceptions I've encountered are female engineers who think like men!

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toWannabeAthlete

🀣🀣

Beachcomber66 profile image
Beachcomber66Graduate10β€’ in reply toWannabeAthlete

A week working in a lawyers’ office would change your mind Wannabe....women are amazing supportive insightful equal (at least) colleagues. Being an idiot about running applies to men too; there is a guy around the corner who likes to call out β€œhere he comes” as I appear in my running kit and make a stupid remarks about wearing KT....why don’t I get a bike etc. I asked if he would like a race. He said he only does distance stuff... so I offered half marathon......end of discussion!!Bottom line, I am happy to be a runner and I don’t care what anyone else thinks !! Well

done Buddy34 πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toBeachcomber66

πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ‘good on you

WannabeAthlete profile image
WannabeAthleteβ€’ in reply toBeachcomber66

You have a much higher opinion of lawyers than me whether they are male or female.

My brother in law was top of his year at law school with a double first in a double degree from Leeds which has since been discontinued as it was too difficult and too many people were failing the degree. He beat all Oxbridge candidates with ease which pains me as I read Engineering at Oxford. At any rate his opinion of lawyers at his top City firm was that their main attribute was stamina rather than intelligence.

The smartest people at my (all boys) school went on to read Medicine, Maths and of course Physics. None read Law.

Most women think and look differently to men.

Life would be boring if this were not the case.

quirkybee profile image
quirkybee

Hey Buddy34 I haven't been on here in a zillion years, haha, but your post is the first one I've read today, so that's a positive startπŸ‘

It is brilliant news about your weight loss goal and that you love running.

It's always best to cheer people on and if nothing positive can be said, it's best those people say nothing.

I understand in part when folk say, don't lose anymore, or, as that woman said, you're fine as you are, only because when my son was little I was over weight due to health reasons, but when I lost it and was much slimmer, I had a few say the same and these were nice genuine people, even a couple of aunties, so I don't think it's all said in a jealous way, but I do know from other friends that folk have said that to them and some of these people were jealous, it was clear that they were. πŸ˜”

Regardless of people's comments or how they feel about you, us, you are the important person in your life and you run for your own reasons, happiness, etc, so keep on running lovely, you have done very well. So much support is offered on here, I've been in receipt of it and love all my little running family, whether I'm on here much or not πŸ˜πŸ‘

Keep posting and runny 😊

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toquirkybee

See and thats why I posted this on here because people are really supportive and understand 😊😊

Bunny55 profile image
Bunny55

Hi I’m so pleased you told those thoughtless women how much you enjoy running especially in our recent time’s I know myself running has kept me sane! It’s been my β€˜go to’ space to think and reassess the good things in life and the kindness of people.

On a slightly different note my neighbour asked me if I thought I was perhaps β€˜too old to still be running’ (im 59) as she’d heard it was not good for knees!! I don’t wish to be unkind but she is a rather large lady I replied, β€˜we’ll I’ve had no problems yet, how are yours?!!’ She didn’t reply !!πŸ˜‚

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toBunny55

Goodness sake 59 isn't old. I bet your knees are in tip top shape😊😊

Bunny55 profile image
Bunny55β€’ in reply toBuddy34

Touch wood no problems so far and thank you I don’t feel 59 so I shall keep on running and enjoying myself as should you. As my ole Mum used to say ... some people are doers and some are watchers!

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toBunny55

πŸ‘πŸ‘

I could never see the attraction of running. I could see that it was a method of keeping fit but then there are so many other things that are more interesting. Our running group started as 8 unfit mums who needed to get fit in order to keep up with our offspring. After seeing 4 human gazelles glide past after the morning school run we thought that looked like a cheap and easy way to get a bit fitter and the C25K was our plan to get there.

Did I say EASY? If it wasn't for the fact that we were in a group and so didn't want to drop out or let anyone else down I don't think any of us would have kept it up.

I don't recall exactly when, but at some point the addiction kicked in and we started to look forward to the running as well as the company of our group.

Covid put pay to our group runs for a few months but we all kept running and improving. When we met up again some were almost unrecognisable with the amount of weight they have lost. We are all more toned and feel healthier. Running has literally changed our lives. We are more health conscious about eating as well as fitness for our family as well as ourselves. We are definitely all hooked on running. However, if someone asked "why do you love it so much?" I am not sure I could give them an answer, we just do!

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply to

Exactly, its addictive . A free natural high 😊😊

Scundered profile image
Scundered

It's envy. We always try to over-analyse these things but they usually boil down to something basic and this is it. Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself how well you've done.

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toScundered

Oh I will πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ‘

Raspberrypink profile image
RaspberrypinkGraduate10

We certainly do understand Buddy! Why would you want to stop when you've made such amazing progress and clearly love your running. Your response was brilliant ( and very measured) πŸ‘

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toRaspberrypink

Exactly πŸ‘πŸ‘

Run46 profile image
Run46Graduate10

Lol...people who don't run, "surely you wouldn't be running for any other reason than weight loss, only crazy people run for fun?!"

Us, "yup, that's us 😜"

I think even we realise how crazy we are when we're running in the wind and rain and loving it but it's a really good kind of crazy 😍

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toRun46

yes thats us , crazy and I love it πŸ˜€

Run46 profile image
Run46Graduate10β€’ in reply toBuddy34

And we wouldn't want you any other way πŸ˜‰πŸ˜Š

Flattttt profile image
Flattttt

It’s a common concern (in these situations) β€” that it’s possible to lose too much weight. Or that being a little outside the bounds of common weight (for one’s size) is a grave concern.

But it’s not the Middle Ages with starvation concerns all around lol

Only you and your doctor know your situation.... you β€œsound fine” to me ie not concerned

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toFlattttt

Yes I'm absolutely fine . I put on 4 1/2 stone after stopping smoking all I've done is taken it all off . πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘

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johnm12Graduate10

I guess they were well intentioned but simply dont understand. The problem with this running lark is that it does take a while before it becomes easy and natural. I lost a few Kg through running BUT by far the biggest effect is that I just feel more positive about things. My lovely wife will often say ( if I am being rather grumpy) "why dont you go for a run". I usually do and almost always, the world is a much better place when I return. I'm a bit slimmer but as we all know there are other bigger benefits! Keep on running!

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply tojohnm12

Yes, the benefits of running are great πŸ‘

Bracken2018 profile image
Bracken2018

Well Buddy,

As an old girl 69+ .... I too started running for a personal reason . Try and visualise ( or not) an old lady plodding along the road !

I achieved the 5K target , love running and that’s what’s important to all of us - **Runners unit :) 🐾

Buddy34 profile image
Buddy34Graduate10β€’ in reply toBracken2018

Doesn't matter what age you are, if you're out and running you're a runner πŸƒβ€β™€οΈ

Nowayever profile image
Nowayever

I have noticed that people seem to find it acceptable to comment on this in a way they wouldn’t if it was weight gain. I too have experienced this and it made me angry .

Carry on enjoying your running and enjoy being healthy and toned.

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