My mum was 94 years old. She had dementia and lived in a wonderful care home but she always recognised me - and Flossie 🐕❤️
Yesterday morning I set out on my run with the intention of starting the Speed Challenge, but 1k in I had a call from the care home. Mum passed peacefully away yesterday, virtually 6 years to the day (anniversary is today) that we lost my dad. No fuss, no drama, just as she lived her life. ❤️❤️
So today I needed to get back out, gather my thoughts and clear my head. Flossie and I headed back to the common and I just ran. No hills today, no attempt at any kind of speed, just a lovely run to remember a lovely kind lady.
RIP mum. ❤️❤️❤️
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We did, thank you Buddy. Mum adored Flossie and the care home allowed her to roam free, stopping to be petted by all the residents and receive biscuits. ❤️❤️
I am so sorry about your mother dying cheeky, she was well looked after and died peacefully, my wife died of the same condition nearly 10 years ago aged only 61, I just hope running with Flossie will ease the pain of your mother dying.
It’s a horrible condition isn’t it Al? I was lucky in that mum always recognised me when I went in to visit. And she was always in good humour, as well as being very kind. A sweet lady. ❤️❤️
Losing someone is always hard but what a beautiful way to be able to look at her life. It is lovely that despite her illness she always recognised you & flossie!
I'm sure that she will be taking lots of wonderful memories with her, RIP cheekymum ♥
Sad news Munks. Running can be a great solace at a time like this and gives you space to think of all the lovely memories of your mum. Take care of yourself and give yourself time to grieve.
Sending you my heartfelt sympathy and a big hug xxx
Thanks Sadie. It would be easy to mope about, but mum wouldn’t have wanted me to do that. A run in her memory with her favourite dog seemed appropriate somehow. ❤️
So sorry for your loss but glad you mothers last years were in a good care home and she still remembered who you were. Take care of yourself and dont try to do too much. Happy running x
Thank you GTB. She had lived in the care home for just over 2 years, and she never once complained. All the carers remarked how polite and appreciative she was, and I am forever thankful that they made her last 2 years safe and happy. ❤️
I am so sorry for your loss cheeky. I hope running, your friends (virtual and real), and family can help you through this time. Our thoughts are with you 💕
Thank you so much Sask. My run really did help this morning. It would be easy to make excuses and not go out, but what good would that have done? A lovely 5k with mum in my thoughts was just what I needed. ❤️
Oh so sad for you. It’s a terrible shock even when you sort of know it must be coming. 💕💕 And extra hard as in turn we move into being the “grown ups” at the top of the generational ladder. I’ll run for her tomorrow. 🏃🏼♀️💕 Take care of yourself too.
Oh I am so very sorry to read that. I’m “pleased” that it was peaceful though and that she had a full long life. Much love to you in this difficult time xx
I am so sorry to hear of the passing of your mum, it’s a strange time just after someone has left us and to be able to just run with your dog and memories will make you stronger to cope with the loss
It certainly does feel surreal Baddie. It’s such a comfort to know that her last couple of years were spent safe and happy at her wonderful care home. ❤️❤️
Sorry to hear your sad news, and you’ll be in our thoughts here at team UNM HQ. The boss runs a dementia care unit, it’s a terrible condition. Well done getting out there and finding the headspace to remember your mum in.
Sorry to hear that Cheeky, but you can believe she was happy towards the end, and I’m so glad she still recognised you as I know how difficult it can be dealing with a loved one’s dementia
As I read at my (young) sister in law’s funeral last year, “you can cry that she is gone, or you can smile that she has lived....”
Oh that’s lovely Barbie. I’m definitely smiling that she lived. She was such a selfless lady and remained that way until the end. Thank you for your kind thoughts. ❤️❤️ How sad about your sister-in-law. 💔
So sorry to hear about your wonderful mum Cheeky. Glad you and Flossie managed a run together. What lovely thoughtful messages and words from other folk.....
Thank you so much SS. Yes I’ve been bowled over by the lovely comments from my VRBs. Really the post was put up to remember my Mum after my run - I didn’t expect such an outpouring of kindness. It just shows what a wonderful community we have here. ❤️❤️
Just read this cheeky; so sorry. She was a well loved lovely loveable mum. Wonderful that you were able to enjoy such a special relationship with her. 🤗
Thanks so much BC. Yes she was definitely well loved. The staff at her care home are very sad as she was always sweet and polite. A lovely mum, you’re right. ❤️
Oh thank you so much Floss. I absolutely cannot believe the outpouring of wonderful messages I’ve had. I wasn’t even expecting many replies, I was just putting my thoughts into writing. What a totally amazing forum this is. ❤️❤️
Yes I’ve a lot to be thankful for. Even though I wasn’t with her personally, she had fabulous carers at her side. It could have been a lot lot worse. Sounds like you had a similar scenario too. ❤️
I am sorry to read of your sad news. Some comfort for you that your dear mum lived in a wonderful care home, always recognised you and Flossie and passed away peacefully, but losing one's Mum is a hard thing in deed. Take one day at a time and be gentle on yourself. I do apologise at my delay in responding. 💐
Thank you so much over61, and there’s absolutely no need to apologise for being late in replying. I seriously didn’t expect so many wonderful replies anyway. What an incredible forum this is. ❤️
Yes it was so peaceful and she was a fantastic age. I’m learning to be patient before leaping headlong into crazy new running challenges. I’m just going to run for fun for a little while. 😀🏃♀️❤️
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