So, during this time, I try to celebrate those I love and have lost.
I'll be keeping my candle alight every day and evening too, it will be next to photos that are most precious to me and I'll have their favourite flowers alongside too.
What will you be doing at this time?
Chloe
my brother in law passed yesterday & today is the anniversary of my mums death.
It hasn’t been a great ending to this year for various reasons so won’t be sorry for January to arrive.
What do I do: I take flowers Christmas trees with messages on them to the crem for my mum sister & daughter. My daughter has a bench there with her name on It even though her ashes aren’t there. I buy special flowers & light candles by my daughters photo at home. I took flowers and a tree to where my daughter’s ashes were scattered this yr. This yr will be a very quiet & non Christmas event just not up to it.
I can’t tell you how sorry I am Caza it really has been a long sad year.
Thinking of you x
That is extremely bad news and please accept my condolences on your loss.
Things always feel worse don't they just because it's Christmas!
Oh Caza I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Another loss so close to the anniversary of losing yr mum. You must just want to hibernate for a fortnight and wake to new beginnings and the great big commercial jolly jolly holidays are over. Thinking of you. Here always. Take care 🦊x
We have all been there haven't we when problems feel worse just because it's Christmas and feeling like everyone is out enjoying themselves except you!
Absolutely. I lost my dad late October this year. It’s not so much Christmas that bothers me but we spoke of funeral planning in the past and he said no matter what time of year his funeral was he wanted the carol Silent Night played. Come the actual funeral arrangements mum said no to it but my last words to him after I’d washed him and kissed him goodbye when he died were ‘sleep in heavenly peace’ . My goodness, they play that carol a lot on the radio right now and it’s so painful to hear. Roll on January and the peace and joy Spring brings. Take care 🦊x
Thing is its all still very raw as its not been very long since that happened.
This evening I am looking forward to a late supper out and seeing live music at one of the local pubs!
Today it's a quiet day in after having had a hectic few days as a reward for my patience and hard work especially with Tuesday with that home visit from the housing officer when I stayed polite and explained how home visits upset me and why which was blunt but honest.
Wednesday afternoon I attended a workshop only to be told when I had arrived it had been cancelled and part of me was glad it had as it had been booked on Monday at short notice and I said I would do it as I had nothing else on only to get told last minute it was off!
I told them they had done me a favour as I could go home early and that I did!
Thankfully I had filled the rest of the day up so when that happened it was no great loss!
Yesterday I enjoyed a nice leisurely swim and came home early and finished off the chicken casserole I made on Tuesday after the visit from the housing officer!
Originally I was going to be going swimming today but cancelled it in favour of having a quiet day in before going out this evening!
You certainly keep yourself busy. That’s the best way to be. Take care 🦊x
I do exactly the same as you chloe x
What a great website, so helpful for me to find others and how they are coping
Will it ever be the same? 
