When did you last accept an invitation....

[chloe40]

That was out of your comfort zone?

I ask this as we often keep ourselves to ourselves after a loss and it can be difficult to start mixing again.

I found it hard and still do, to even attend an online meeting!

Chloe

[BrahmNm]

I find it's very uncomfortable and hard to mix for meeting or online meeting.I humbly refuse invitation if any.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to BrahmNm]

Hello BrahmNm

It really is so uncomfortable, and I've tried a few times but what is the alternative, isolation ?

I wish I knew.

Chloe

[BrahmNm in reply to chloe40]

I think if it's possible to be isolated,be isolated ,keep hopes in our mind that lord will answer us through our inner

[Caza]

After my daughter died I continued to accept invitations but it was so hard. One of the hardest was to her best friends wedding & of course my daughter would’ve been a bridesmaid. But I wouldn’t have missed it for the world. Then my sister died who was my best friend. I moved house & shut myself away but it didn’t bring me peace. So I moved house again & decided I’d accept all invitations. For me it’s keeping busy. I still hate dinner invites with people I don’t know very well & will try to avoid them as much as I can. I try & avoid questions & how many children do you have etc……

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Caza]

Hi Caza

It's so hard when we first start accepting invites but as you've discovered, being busy suits you and your situation best.

Yes, it does seem a little easier to be with those you know well, this avoids difficult and stressful moments x

[kenster1 Volunteer]

it`s my mates 50th on Saturday bit of a journey to go but another mate is taking me and 3 other friends. Will be a good night I hope but I`ve got a habit of feeling out of place but should be ok. My mate who is driving he buried his mum last Wednesday split up with his long term girlfriend 2 weeks before I`m glad he`s attending and being amongst friends.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to kenster1]

Hi kenster1 Kenny

I think it will do you a power of good Kenny!

Yes, the longer we're out of 'the social scene' the harder it can be but I'm confident you'll soon start to relax and enjoy it.

It will be good for your friend to have his mates around him too.

Enjoy Kenny

x

[Turnipgirl in reply to kenster1]

That's great having something to look forward to!

[Turnipgirl]

This week has been full of booked appointments and thankfully they are all done now and one of them was a group interview at Admiral insurance in the city centre which is a massive building and I decided I would go and try my best and they said be here for 8.45am and I arrived early and had a cup of tea at a nearby cafe and then nipped over for 8.45am.

We had all started the interview and it was 9.30am and a girl came in late and had a backless top on which I felt wasn't suitable for an interview and didn't even apologise to the trainers which was a bit rude!

It was intimidating going there as its a big place but I went and tried my best which is all you can do really!

Today I accepted an interview at an army camp near where the old offices were, working in the canteen there and went and felt intimidated as it was a big place but the chap was nice who interviewed me and it was informal and said he will let everyone know by next Friday at the earliest if they want to call you back for a second interview!

If they say sorry you haven't got the job there I won't be heartbroken over it!

Yesterday it was the 6 monthly inspection at home which I hate as I feel judged and that it's an invasion of privacy but I was sensible and got on with things and was polite and did everything asked of me and there were no problems and they weren't there very long!

I hadn't put anything down for the afternoon so I took some time for myself and had a good cry as those things stress me out and upset me but I did it even though I hated it and got lots done whilst I was waiting around like the washing and cooking future meals!

This afternoon it's swimming at 2pm and I will ask if I can stay until 4pm like they said to do after I booked 2 hours online a few weeks back and got told off!

Next week all week it's a pre employment training course with an interview next Friday.

At Admiral one of the interviewers was wearing shorts and interviewees in jeans and one of the other interviewees swore at interview and it wasn't mild swearing either!

If I was 19 and had put on a backless top for interview I would have been told off by my father and told to go back and get changed!

Maybe it's me being stuffy but I feel jeans and backless tops aren't appropriate for interview!

[chloe40 Administrator]

Sorry you been through a stressful week Turnipgirl

Yes, I imagine those inspections are really difficult but you came through it as you do with interviews, so keep on keeping on and you'll come out on top for sure.

Relax now and enjoy your weekend x

[Turnipgirl in reply to chloe40]

Sadly things like stressful weeks can happen when things pile up at the same time!

I was shattered though yesterday when I came home from swimming!

Even though they were polite at the inspection and nothing offensive got said I still found it upsetting though and was right to let them in and let them get on with it rather than slamming the door in their faces and telling them to go away!

Thankfully the next one will be in 6 months time.

[chloe40 Administrator]

Oh yes, absolutely right.

Try and relax a little and have a good weekend x

[Turnipgirl in reply to chloe40]

Good news as I have enjoyed a great day out in Cheltenham today catching up with my friend and putting the world to rights and feel loads better for having done so!

It always feels good doesn't it to make the effort to go out and socialise and be out in the world rather than sitting in sorry for yourself feeling like it's not fair!

Tomorrow its the transport festival at Barry Island which we haven't been to since 2019 which we are really looking forward to!

We hadn't been to Cheltenham since the August of 2019 and lots has changed there as their House of Fraser shop Cavendish house is no more and neither is the Harvester or the Chinese buffet place in the Brewery Quarter.

Next week is a call centre pre employment training course in the city centre which I am looking forward to doing and an interview on Friday as well.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Turnipgirl]

Glad you enjoyed it Turnipgirl