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This will bring sad memories to mind.

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For me it brings back memories of when my father died back in the April of 2021.

He died on the 18th April which was a Sunday morning at 11.30am.

Today he would have been 77 so we have had a picnic lunch outside in the celebration of life garden and here it's really hot today as well!

I am doing well after getting evicted a couple of weeks ago and getting out and about and I have restarted job hunting and have had a few phone interviews yesterday which is a step in the right direction and invited to interviews next week as well.

Last Sunday I enjoyed a roast dinner out and a nice walk round the neighbourhood.

Friday coming I will be waiting in for my new furniture to be delivered and yesterday was a day of waiting in as well!

The new flat is fine and is coming together and hopefully I should get another job in due course.

I have done my sums and it appears that expenses are lower in the new place but still that was horrible going through the trauma of being evicted when I had done nothing wrong and how it dragged on from last July until I left on Bank Holiday Monday a couple of weeks ago the day before the bailiffs were due to come in to evict so thankfully I didn't get my things thrown out on the street like plenty of others I know who have been through it had!

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I'm pleased you're able to celebrate his life.

Life is going well for you and that is good, take care of yourself.

<3

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Turnipgirl in reply tochloe40

Yes things are settling down nicely here now and now time has passed by I do feel that by accident I was done a favour getting thrown out of that other flat as I was miserable there anyway!

Another thing I feel was an accidental favour was that letter from the bailiffs that gave me 3 weeks notice of being evicted as inadvertently when the bailiffs did that they stopped me from having made a big mistake in having taken a property in North Road that I wasn't happy with but had decided I would put up with anyway and North Road had said they were going to be getting their current tenant to move out early and had said that when I had rung them up to ask about referencing and they had claimed they would call me back which I reckoned was lies!

The city council said to me did I want to wait for that place and go in a b and b for a bit or did I want to take the place I have now and I said I would take this place now and told the council about how the other place had fobbed me off with excuses and they had fobbed the council off as well who were really cross so that's why I feel that when the bailiffs hand delivered that letter saying they were coming on 30 May by accident they stopped me from having made a big mistake going to the place in North Road.

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Skyp

So glad chloe that you and everyone here for each other. I may not comment much. But I log in to group every day x

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chloe40Administrator in reply toSkyp

Hi Skyp

It's so nice to know you're still visiting us, it's good to know.

<3

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Caza

I’m not sure why the weather should affect my feelings but it does. After the death of my daughter I got into a terrible state that first winter, wondering where she was & if she was cold. No sense to it at all. Every change of season I’d struggle.

I’m in a strange mood at the moment where nothing much affects me. If it’s sunny raining snow frost whatever I just accept it. I have no preference at all weird eh!

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chloe40Administrator in reply toCaza

Hi Caza

That was understandable and very sad, I can't imagine how awful you must have been feeling during that time <3

I am pleased to know that nothing is affecting your mood, enjoy it, you've come far.

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Sandradsn

I planted a rose when my mum died,its just about to bloom.She would love it as it's a delicate pink one.My roses are all beautiful this year and they remind me of her.We are going to the seaside for the day today to watch the sea which I find so calming.

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chloe40Administrator in reply toSandradsn

That's lovely Sandradsn

So good to look out of the window and be reminded of your Mum x

Enjoy your day

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my sons birthday is in July but never thought much about that but I do struggle over the summer months mostly due to when I was younger and now due to our housing situation.

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chloe40Administrator in reply tokenster1

Yes, I suppose we don't often think about this @Kenny, Really sorry your still have issues with housing.

I really hope it changes soon.

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Turnipgirl in reply tokenster1

When we were getting evicted I found it extremely stressful as it dragged on for ages since the July of last year until the end of May just gone.

When we got to the new place I cried tears of relief that it was all over!

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