Do you visit......

[chloe40]

Do you find it helpful visiting the resting place of your loved one?

I do, I find it calming somehow, and I always feel better apart from the leaving part, that's still difficult.

Chloe

[Greyone]

Hi Chloe40

On this strange winterlike day when I am bombarded with sun and rain. It seems to reflect my life.

When mum died over 5 years ago, i used to visit every month. After a few years, i tried every season and used to visit the baby's corner and the Commonwealth war graves (CWG). That allowed me to linger a little longer. I even discovered the Remembrance Day service held for the CWG. Maybe other here would benefit from this service if it exists on their area?

At the moment i visit when the seasons change. I also find the crematorium too far to walk both ways so I make an event of it rather than a quick visit.

I don't think I need or would like to go too often now because I need something in my life to push out all that old grief I kept within. But ya know. What to do after bereavement is something i may look into one day because i think many of us are missing something.

P.S - I dont do the email notifications for new posts because I'm a member of quite a few but i do promise top pop in regular now.

P.P.S - Several years ago you mentioned creativity in one of your posts so please stand by over the weekend.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Greyone]

Well hello Greyone

How lovely to hear from you, you have been missed.

I agree, as time goes by it may not be practical for many reasons to visit weekly, initially, many of us do and I remember your descriptions very well!

Glad to know all is well with you and I certainly look forward to more posts.

Chloe

[Caza]

I have tried to get comfort from visiting the crematorium. I have a bench in memory of my daughter it is placed between my mum & sister. In all honesty I don’t get any comfort from visiting just pain. I take flowers often but leave in tears. Christmas is the worst when I take miniature trees for them all & heartfelt words on cards. It just doesn’t sit well with me that all of them loved Christmas & yet here they are. My daughter & sister should’ve had many more Christmas’s. & even my mum who died aged 71.

I have to say that the crematorium is beautifully well kept & the staff so friendly. The head gardener, who we got talking to, now leaves flowers in my daughters bench. Very thoughtful

[chloe40 Administrator]

Oh Caza

I can't imagine the distress and physical pain you must be experiencing and not only at Christmas either<3

I read your post and my goodness, I could 'feel' the heartbreak you're suffering.

Thank goodness their are thoughtful people in this world. I hope one day you'll feel able to sit on your bench and be able to enjoy it, knowing your daughter is being cared for by your dear Mum and sister <3

Chloe

[Celestialbird]

I visit cemeteries often as I find them peaceful and calming to me. Unfortunately I live away from my dad’s grave, and everyone else has been cremated.

[kenster1 Volunteer]

always makes me feel better maybe not at first mind you and I always say a little prayer for everyone on the way out.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to kenster1]

Kenny kenster1 How are you?

It's seem ages since we heard from you, I do hope all is well.

I'm pleased it helps Kenny, you're such a regular visitor, you put me to shame <3

Chloe

[Lperica10]

my dad was cremated and I have some and my sister has the main one. I drove by my dads old house the other day that’s comforting I don’t do it often but the other thing that helps is places he liked that is comforting to me. Parks, restaurants, etc

[chloe40 Administrator]

Hi Lperica10

Yes, I think that's comforting too, especially visiting places they enjoyed so much <3