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Why does family loss bring out the worst in people?

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Have you experienced the arguments between siblings over cash and property?

Brothers and sisters we thought we were close to, suddenly turn into scavengers, it's just horrible.


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Caza profile image

Oh yes. With my own experience & friends. Just awful how folk can be. With me whilst I was distraught & quite honestly off my head with grief after my daughter died, my brother persuaded my father to sell the family home & sign everything over to him. The house still had many of my treasures there (old Teddy school reports etc.) he skipped them all. I found out only after my father had moved. Nice one eh!! Never spoken to him since. Found out he'd lost everything 😂. I could of fought it but my sister & I decided to let it go, we had each other & our children he’d miss out on us. Little did I know then that I’d loose my sister as well.

Well enough off that, it’s off to aqua this morning.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Caza

Oh Caza That's just unbelievable, I'm horrified for you!

Do you know I realise more and more how selfish and money orientated people/family can be, yet they're portraying this picture of an ideal family.

Well, shortly after my Father was cremated, the family went back to my Mums and my brother immediately demanded to know where my Dad's money was! The fallout was huge I can tell you and the family dispersed, never to be reunited <3


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Caza in reply to chloe40

That’s awful Chloe, I don’t get it. Family & friends are way more important than money. My friend who’s daughter died a month before mine (that’s how we met) when her mother died, her sister in law went into the house & took the mothers jewellery because after all she had daughters & my friend didn’t. Very very cruel, the stupid thing was that my friend wouldve happily given them to her nieces. Such greed x

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Caza

It is greed Caza and to think you friend would have given them happily really! People amaze me everyday, some are full of kindness and love and others well, I'm lost for words <3

waylay profile image

Oh God yes. 2.25 years and counting. I'm living on £417 ESA/month and loans from some amazing people.

Honestly, the rupture w/ my brother (he was.... vile) almost killed me last November. I'm almost able to accept that he's not at all who I thought he was.

I miss my nephews terribly,tho.

kenster1 profile image

our aunts estate still hasn`t been sorted her whole family apart from my dad had plenty of cash houses the lot but they tore us apart with blatant lies never to be forgotten.even recently one of my cousins was asking the lawyer how much he was getting my troublesome aunt even saying she`s watching daily for a lawyers letter coming through the post telling her when she`ll get her money.the same cousin even suggested policy`s my aunt made in America had been cashed in by my sister who`s never been to the states.I could go on and on about it but that`s some of how it is in our family.we might have been the black sheep of the family but we sure stepped up when not one but two aunts came to live at my dads house when they had dementia.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to kenster1

That's so awful Kenny kenster1

Unbelievable greed pure and simple, I just can't comprehend this horrible attitude some people have.

I wonder just how many families have someone in it that is like this <3

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kenster1Volunteer in reply to chloe40

just been out with the dog met an elderly neighbour who recently just moved out his neighbour was also one of the longest street residents but sadly passed a few month ago.the neighbour the guy who just passed made a will 30 years ago and it was only made out to his daughter leaving out 4 other kids but it looks like the lawyer might have swindled the money.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to kenster1

Just when you think you've heard it all Kenny, despicable!<3

Catgirl1976 profile image

Yes last year my mother tried to pick a fight with me by saying my brother had been given the family car after my father died back last April.

What I said was that would be nice for them and then made up an excuse to get off the phone and hung it up!

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Catgirl1976

Sorry to read this Catgirl1976

Sometimes it's best not to enter into conversation to avoid conflict, as you did.


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Catgirl1976 in reply to chloe40

The ones I feel sorry for are those who are so unhappy with their lives that they have to go round trying to upset others to feel better about themselves!

What I said was that I was meeting my friend at 10am so I had to get off the phone and said bye and hung it up when really it was 11!

When we met up I told her what I had done and she said good for me and had laughed and laughed when I said how I had lied about 10am rather than 11am and said I was right to have got off the phone asap!

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