When is it time to let go of grief and is that truly possible?

[chloe40]

What do you think?

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[Sandradsn]

I don't know if that's possible. As time goes on I think our bereavement isn't so raw.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Sandradsn]

Me too Sandradsn Thanks for your reply.

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[kenster1 Volunteer in reply to Sandradsn]

I see it as we don`t let go of the grief but to a certain extent the grief lets go of us some people like myself feel grieving can bring us some comfort we`re just human with feeling more so when it`s an anniversary.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to kenster1]

Thanks kenster1 KennyI like this explanation <3

[Sandradsn]

Ps..I think the hardest part of losing someone is missing them .😥

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Sandradsn]

It sure is Sandradsn We have to get through everything else on a daily basis but we just cannot control that can we <3

[Kathush]

I agree with Kenster1.My momma been gone for 5 years and some days are still harder than others.

I just thought about something while you ask this question...me and my momma were close, we did everything together, mainly shopped, she was able to get me out of the house even though i am agoraphobic. Now that she has been gone, i haven't left the house except for the monthly dr. Visits. I have no one i feel comfortable enough to go with because i do have "accidents" sometimes because of severe anxiety. Only other person i have is one best friend and she is home bound physically. Ugh.

[chloe40 Administrator]

That's sad Kathush

You have friends here, you can be sure of that.

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[GoGo_JoJo]

I think it's interesting the way you've phrased that... "let go" yes, at times we can hold onto pain, or grief, we can use it to punish ourselves, or to excuse ourselves, to justify our action, or inaction.

I don't think we ever completely move on from grief, but we learn to enjoy life again. We feel less guilty when we laugh or have fun, we embrace joy again. I think we also realise that our loved ones want us to live on, to live and love to experience life fully.

I think when grief weighs so heavily that it stops us from moving forward at all then it's time to put it down and let go, to take our steps unsupported, to find our own balance.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to GoGo_JoJo]

Bless you GoGo_JoJo I love your post!

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[Caza]

For me I think grief lives along side of me. I try not to let it show or stop me moving forward but it’s there.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Caza]

HI Caza Yes, I think it always remains within us too <3

[Lperica10]

Everyone has their own timeline and that is perfectly okay. And like people have said it depends on the time of year, season, birthday, anniversary, etc or even something smaller everyday things that trigger memories both happy and sad. Definitely in waves!

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Lperica10]

Interesting point about waves Lperica10

Thank you 🙏

[Will2015abc]

I don’t think we “let go” of grief ever - that’s not a natural or organic way to think or be. It’s like asking when do we let go of happiness for example. Grief is there. Sometimes it’s overwhelming sometimes it’s manageable. But there isn’t a timeline (I feel) for navigating grief as we will always live with the loss. And that’s okay. It’s horrible it’s hard but it’s okay

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Will2015abc]

Glad to hear this Will2015abc Thank you!

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