Has someone unexpectedly turned out to be a real support to you

[chloe40]

through your grief?

It's often those we don't feel will step up that actually do.

<3

[kenster1 Volunteer]

I wish they did Chloe but one or two unexpected people did comfort me when my son died.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to kenster1]

Sorry that didn't happen before kenster1 but I'm thankful that at least one or two did when your son died, bless him <3

[Caza]

Yes, a work colleague. We only ever chatted at work but when my daughter died she was there for me 100% she’s been my rock. We’ve become really close friends & we speak everyday even though I no longer work with her. Lots of ‘close’ friends crossed the rd. I’ve now cut them out of my life completely. I had a handful of friends who were there for me day & night & for that I will be forever grateful. One being my sister who was my best friend she died just 4 yrs after my daughter, gone way too soon. You soon get to know who your true friend are.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Caza]

It’s so good to hear this Caza

The impression we’re given is that no one wants to know but there are some good people in life x

[Caza in reply to chloe40]

There absolutely is x

[GoGo_JoJo]

🤔 with my Dad, oddly it was my mums best friend from her school days who was most help to me, along with my husband and brother. Family didn't even ring, barely acknowledged my loss.

With my mum it was her sister in Australia who reached out, again my husband and brother too. Once more the rest of the family barely even noticed. Sad that the rest of her siblings (she was one of 6) regardless of the state of their relationship didn't really seem fazed. 😕

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to GoGo_JoJo]

It always seems to be the ones least expected to reach out that do and I’m thankful for that x GoGo_JoJo x

[Sandradsn]

Only my daughter,we support each other and talk things through.I do tend to reply to other people "yes I'm fine thank you,how are you?".Inside me though I'm hurting.I put up some sort of guard as I don't think they really want to know.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Sandradsn]

Hi Sandradsn

I’m glad you have you’re daughter for support but maybe you could think about hinting you’re not really alright , they may surprise you and turn out to be an extra support and friend x