Did your loved one pass without discussing or leaving instructions for you?

[chloe40]

And how did you cope with that?

Chloe <3

[kenster1 Volunteer]

no my mum ended up really bad quite quick my dad over 4 months but if it wasn`t for the leg break in hospital he wouldn`t have needed to although he might have done if it was the cancer.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to kenster1]

It's really sad when there hasn't been time to talk about arrangements, although not many of us are strong enough to bring the subject up with our loved one, not sure I could but for others it's a subject that just needs talking about!

Hope you're okay Kenny.

Chloe <3

[Theloudone]

That was one of the hardest things to deal with. People giving me their opinions on what they think is right- constant second guessing of myself. Criticisms even as small as the color of dress I picked for her to wear.

I wanted to scream at them all- “I’m just doing what I think she would want! “

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Theloudone]

Hello @ Theloudone

That must have been very frustrating for you. I always think if only someone would just say, "I'm here" and sit quietly until I wanted to talk, but they mean well and we have to be grateful they are around, quite often people just disappear after the funeral.

Chloe

[Josephine13halffull]

My husband did not talk, discuss or open up about anything the whole time he was ill, having treatment or about the outcome. Then it was too late.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Josephine13halffull]

I'm really sorry about that, but I can totally understand, not many of us want to discuss these matters when facing our own mortality, it must be extremely difficult.

<3

[Josephine13halffull]

He was a man of very few words all his life.

[chloe40 Administrator]

Some people are naturally like that Josephine, so sorry. <3