Night difficulties

[maemae86]

I’ve always been a good sleeper. When I’m working, I’ll happily sleep 10pm to 7am.

The last few weeks, I’ve not been able to shut off until 3 in the morning. My brains going round in circles all the time and I’ve been having lots of flash backs and memories of my Dad at this time, as well as other anxieties playing round in my head.

Is this a natural part of grieving? I really need my sleep and feel so anxious and exhausted if I don’t get enough, which then makes the next day worse and so on.

I’ve tried going to bed earlier, sleep stories, meditation etc and none of it really effective. It seems like my brain and body are determined to stay awake.

Any guidance or advice very welcomed.

I hope you’re all ok and being kind to yourselves xx

[Greyone]

Hi maemae86 - I think if you have at least tried all of that good stuff to no avail and you readily mention your father then maybe it is time for counselling.

I waited almost a year before seeking counselling. I let things build till i said to myself that i must do something about this. This coincided with other events in my life so i was lucky enough to be offered the chance and willingly accepted it.

I recall the feeling of relief after the first time i discussed mum with a counsellor. In a way i could not/did not with those around me. Having made that small leap, i then felt ready to move on.

My first port of call was our company service but i have used Cruse Bereavement Care since and I'm confident they are there for me if needed

I am no expert, but my story suggests that it would help you.

[maemae86 in reply to Greyone]

Hiya, thank you for your reply.

I am on their waiting list 💜

[froggymom88]

Yes, it is not unusual to have difficulty sleeping after losing a loved one. When my dad died and I had trouble sleeping, I would just talk to him and recall a pleasant or fun memory with him. . Sometimes I would write him a letter and then burn it. Then I would say good night. It did help. I will be praying for you.