Which if these stages have you been through and survived?

[chloe40]

Denial

Anger

Bargaining

Depression

Guilt

Obsession

Acceptance

Chloe <3

[Hidden]

Well to be honest all of them, how many of us waste hours ruminating over the past...

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Hidden]

Absolutely Jerry,

We all go through these things, some of us get stuck on certain stages and others even go backwards before making further progress, but in time, most of us will eventually get to acceptance, which is what we all desire. <3

Chloe

[kenster1 Volunteer]

had all of them with my mum and son mainly anger with my dad because of what his family have done to my sister and niece.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to kenster1]

Do you feel you've found acceptance Kenny kenster1

I completely understand about your sister and niece <3

Chloe

[kenster1 Volunteer in reply to chloe40]

yeah I think so but most of our time has been spent caring for our aunt I think after she goes I might struggle a little time will tell ive got this far so who knows.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to kenster1]

You certainly have Kenny <3

Chloe

[GoGo_JoJo]

All of them at some point, although very differently relating to different losses.

When losing either of my parents I didn't really have denial or bargaining...

[chloe40 Administrator]

Thank you GoGo_JoJo x

I think we do actually go through these in different ways for different losses Jo, so I totally agree with you, after all, our losses are different, so we would experience these differently.

Chloe

[Greyone]

I have been thinking much on these because when I first read them, I was disappointed to find they are quite disorderly. I have yet to recognise denial or anger and as I type I am changing my mind. I have yet to recognise Denial but over the past 3 years I have felt Anger, I have a vivid recollection of bargaining. Guilt and Obsession certainly. Depression worries me a bit and having looked up the word I think quite likely.

Maybe like many. i found a small book about the 7 stages and upon reading it I was very very disappointed that the stages can come more than once, in any order and maybe more than once or not at all. If that is still true then I don't think its much of a theory.

I could be quite wrong to say that as far as i can recall bargaining was the most dominant at one point because I recall making my bargain out loud several times. But anger, guilt and obsession are 3 strange bedfellows I have felt in abundance.

Even now i surprise myself by believing that my grieving was not just for losing dad 17 years ago and mum nearly 4 years ago but for them both leaving me on my own.

My thought now is that the seven stages are far less useful than anticipated. I would at least be happier with something a little more orderly.

[chloe40 Administrator]

That's exactly why I've never made a big thing about it Greyone for as far as I am concerned, although we all go through certain emotions naturally, we are all different and as such our losses, circumstances and the emotions that follow are very different in each of us, so please don't fret about what others say are the stages of grief, we know ourselves exactly what we go through. <3

Chloe