Grieving over my sons sudden death just a month ago

[jessika7102]

Hi, I am in a very sad, depressed, isolated state since my son passed away a month ago due to the driver of the car being drunk & speeding 105mph, a car pulled in front of them and banged right into the car sending my son threw the windshield 100 yrds away from the accident right onto his head, he was brain damaged immediately, I had the drs do every test to see if there was anything they could do to make him survive, There was nothing they could of done, He was on life support with a breathingtube and just laying there unconsciously, I couldn't have my son go on just being a vegetable, so I had to let him go,It was the hardest thing I ever had to do, I am not doing good at all, very depressed, isolating away from everybody, sad, and I sit at his grave all day long, I just can't and don't think I can get over this. I have a 16 yr. old daughter that needs me and its been so hard. Can anyone give me some advice and support on what I should do. I don't want to do anything anymore, I lost interest in everything and this pain is so overwhelming it hurts so bad.

Please Reach Out To Me I Really Need Help & Advice

Thank You

Jessica

[chloe40 Administrator]

Hello my dear jessika7102

{{{Hugs}}} I want to hold you so tightly and tell you everything will be okay but of course it won't be. You've lost your beloved child and the pain is unbelievable for you. The circumstances are so hard to read for me but for you, they are immeasurable, I am tagging kenster1 who has been through a very similar experience and I feel sure he will reply to you too.

You are going to need so much support dear Jessica and I hope you have family aside from your daughter who can support you, but of course, they are grieving themselves, so ideally, you need outsiders, maybe neighbours to help with everyday concerns but a Bereavement Counsellor or therapist who will help you personally and give you all the time you need to talk and support you too.

There are organisations that will also help and I'm not sure where you are located but I have added one for USA and one for UK, you'll find others online or contact me and I'll source them for you.

Your daughter is at such a tender age too and she will also need support of her own from a counsellor too with her age group in mind. If you haven't done so already, please inform her school head who will provide the necessary support from with and that will be very helpful. She'll be angry too, just like yourself and will need to express that.

Jessica, please do stay in touch here, we have wonderful members who will support you too, including me XXX

You are both in my thoughts.

Chloe

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[Caza]

I’m so so sorry to read this very sad post. It’s such early days for you. Compassionate Friends is a very helpful site where parents of children who have gone to soon give each other support & advice.

Look after yourself x