going through a messy break up even though feelings from both parties are still very strong.

[unneccesaryworry]

get a lot of anxiety forcing myself not to contact them but we work in the same place so im always wondering where they are are they around. Its really affecting work and i have important deadlines in few weeks. trying to get over them is 1 problem but the racing heart the panic attacks the sweaty palms and bad thoughts are controlling and too intrusive.

what can i do to ease my mind and bring focus back to my life

[knowles8586]

I couldnt work in the same place, It happened to me once and made the anxiety worse

[unneccesaryworry in reply to knowles8586]

i am leaving in 8 weeks, but i have the most important deadlines in those 8 weeks. if i could just focus... now...today

[Hidden]

Im going through a break up too..... its really hard, although I dont even live in the same town so in that respect it is easier,,,,,,

But I do have to start all over again with my life, get a new job etc.......

I think you just have to take it one day at a time and know that things will get better........... Just try and focus on the good things in your life, family , friends, hobbies??

It is very hard though, Ive only been split up 4 weeks so I know how hard it is......

Take care Kerry xxx

[unneccesaryworry in reply to Hidden]

i feel for you, i know there are so many wonderful things out there but i just cant see them at the minute.

its always so much effort to force the bad thoughts out and focus on the good ones.

i find exercise helps, but after words im back at square 1 lost again.

[unneccesaryworry]

It was never my intention to do this. But over time we just fell in love. And as we have only been together for maybe 8 months or so the lust is still so so great. I crave her so badly and I know she has feelings for me still but she is forcing and forcing herself to not like me. I am trying so hard to give her space but even if I don't see her for a day I get depression and anxiety my heart races and I can't control the urge and I end up calling or texting or speaking to her even though I know I have to give her space. So essentially my dilemma is this

Talk to her and feel happy (though this is counter productive n I feel more upset in the long run)

Or

Not talk to her and feel constantly depressed with anxiety and panic and agitation

I feel so weak