Can anyone get over a nervous breakdown?

[swanlinnet]

Hiya PB

I think once we find a person to trust, then I think most people can recover completely from a breakdown.

I am still searching but do have hope . At the same time, I do have to make the necessary changes in my life. Truth is some people definitely wear me down and it usually takes me a while to see just who is taking the **iss !!!

Not long ago I was 100% but life moved on and people did throw some huge **it my way.

Hope this helps,

Sincerely, Vince : )

[Hidden in reply to swanlinnet]

Hiya vince, that's exactly how I feel. Life hurdles are so hard at times but we tackle them all the same (even if we crawl under them lol).

Trust one person! Hmmm not easy because its hard to let people know I'm suffering as I don't want to be a burden on anyone, although I did try once to talk to somebody close and was basically told snap out of it and was told I'm schizophrenic so decided not to do that again!

Thank u for replying, I'm sure we'll get over life's hurdles slowly but surely

All the best

[leehow79]

R u talkin about a bad times wiv ur nerves or an actual mental beakdown bcause they r 2 differert illnesses.

[Hidden in reply to leehow79]

Hi leehow79, can you please explain the difference between the two

[Hidden in reply to leehow79]

Hi.lee. Of course, you are right, although the two can overlap sometimes. I would never council anyone diagnosed with a psychosis simply because I had no training in mental problems of that nature. I do believe that a neurosis is different in that it can be treated by counselling and mild medication. A Psychosis; Paranoia, etc, requires professional treatment and is in the realms of psychiatry. The medication required is different too. 'Nerves' are eminently treatable and respond well to Counselling, Psychotherapy and other talking therapies. Sometimes with medication from your GP. But we all vary so much in our view of this illness that the choice we make must be tailored to our specific problem. When does one know that one has a deeper mental illness? Well, the behaviour pattern is different. A lot of really mentally ill people do not know they are; it is their behaviour pattern that tells whether they are mentally ill or suffering from 'nerves'. The pattern is very different. Hope you are feeling better, lee. Regards. jonathan.

[leehow79 in reply to Hidden]

Hi jonathon thanku 4 ur words of wisdom. i hav not lst the plot but am at absolute rock bottom wiv a major depressive episode + wiv me not bein able 2 tolerate meds, hav not yet managed 2 find an antidepressant i can yet tolerate so therefore am not mentaly strong enough 2 deal wiv this profound amount of anxiety i hav. these levels of anxiety i hav seem so abnormal, hav tried 2 fight, hav tried 2 go wiv it but unable 2 find anything that even elevieates the anxiety/panick i hav. i also think bein so sensitive 2 meds + havin such a cocktail as i hav had recently is not doin my head any good. wot is it im suposed 2 do wen i hav thought wiv my absolute bst. really apreciate ur advice. wiv kindest regards leeanne. P.S i take 1 step fwards then 2 steps bck.

[ellabella]

Oh PB How ignorant people can be when they haven't a clue what they are talking about! Fancy calling you schizophrenic!!! I get "Paranoid" lol. I can laugh now but it cut me to the quick when it was said and really had me thinking I was! plus I admit I do push people away rather than confide in them. It's such a shame. I don't confide in anyone anymore " except on here". Even close family have no idea how I feel. I just wouldn't burden them with it either. Yet is seems I am the one they turn to when they are ill???? don't quite get that one????lol. As for complete recovery, yes you can recover but unfortunately you can't forget. You are definitely a better person for having the experience though Lots of Love x Ella x

[Hidden in reply to ellabella]

Hi Ella, thank you for replying hun!

Lol when poured my heart out hun I was expecting a little bit of sympathy maybe a hug even but know I was made to feel worse. But never mind I'm over it now. But I will only stick to confusing in people on here, I feel safe here.

I have explained what's happened to me to close family but that's it, now I've got my brave exterior over my crumpled interior and as you say hun they all think I'm my normal self and come to me with all their problems. Think I should keep thinking about the camel who had o e straw too many placed on his back eh.

All the best hun hope you're well x

[henige in reply to ellabella]

You must have an understanding nature ellabella. We put on such a brave front a lot of the time that people think we don't have any feelings whatsoever. It's so nice sometimes just to have cuddle. xx

[leehow79]

Hi hun, hope u understand better as jonathon as explained. but 2 the awnser 2 ur question people can recover frm mental brkdwns + i know of this hav as seen it personaly. kindest regards leeanne. P.S jonathon, thanku.

[Hidden]

Hi. PB. The answer to your question is an emphatic YES. I have seen sufferers of many years standing fully recover and go back to work or lead 'normal' lives gain. But they are changed people . You can never expect to be the same and I am sure, when you recover, you would not want to be. Looking back most of us find that what led us into this was wrong thinking. (Except for PTSD which is a different matter). In my case selfishness, arrogance and other negative emotions. I do agree with ella. People use these words, paranoia, schizophrenia when they have not got a clue about the illness involved. It is very hurtful and upsetting to a nervously ill person for some ignoramus to come along and say, "Oh, he/she is paranoid". They need stopping there and then because they are talking from appalling ignorance and can do immense damage. You can't forget, but there comes a time when the memories no longer affect you. They just become memories, of no real importance. Regards. jonathan.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Hello Jonathan, thank you for your reply. I just left a message on your last reply but it disappeared (so annoying). Honestly though I've been through so much in my life (as im sure most have) and fought for most important people to me. I have a massive family and a lot of them turn to me with their problems and I step in and take the pressure of of them (a bit like a shield) So I've never been selfish I've always thought about the other person and never myself but now that has slightly changed and now I say no sorry can't help you this time (i do feel bad after tho lol).

I'm sure I'll get better soon as I know I'm a lot better than when IT first started. It's just bad days come and I don't like IT.

I do know the difference with nervous breakdown and psychosis as I lived with somebody that developed cannabis psychosis and at times was a living nightmare (oh if I told you some of stories) No body would listen to me when I asked for help! I even took him to the doctors who took no notice. It wasn't until I had to he harsh and kick him out and he went home (to parents) that his mum agreed with me and finally got him help.

But anyway woo thought I was at counselling then lol.

Hope you're well Jonathan, all the best x

[ellabella]

It is wonderful to have a safe place xxxxxx

[stde]

Yes...yes....yes...... I was in a phsychiatric ward years ago...with mental breakdown...today one day at a time it was a gift ...it changed my life perspective, it helped me to realise what is really important in life........It changed me for the better!!!!

[leehow79 in reply to stde]

Hello styde. a lot of people dignose them selves wiv nervous + mental brkdwns wivout knowing the true meaning of these equaly debilitating illnesses. as i hav bin diagnosed wiv a nervous brkdwn + am still strugling after mnths of trying 2 find suitable treatment + not ever bein able 2 c past suicide, i supose the question i wnt u 2 awnser me honestly is can u recover frm a nervous brkdwn or at least b able 2 live som kind of normal life again. wiv kindest regards leeanne.

[Hidden in reply to leehow79]

Hi Leanne, I hope you don't think I've self diagnosed a nervous breakdown!

I feel for you i

[stde]

hi leanne, sorry i took a little longer to reply..

You mentioned suicide...it is my belief, having had these thoughts myself when i was ill...that no-one wants to die, they just want their racing negative emotionally destructive thoughts to cease and in a moment of despair they think that this is the only way...IT IS NOT THE ANSWER. IT IS A DISTURBED MIND LOOKING FOR AN ESCAPE. When things calm down you will see this.

I also believe there is meds to suit you although it must be frustrating, but remember some meds take 2/3 weeks before you feel the benefit, and also your mood may dip in this time before it stabilises. Do not give up trying..they will give you breathing space....

But to answer your question...YES...you can recover but to continue to be well you have to change your mindset, in my own experience I had to come to terms what is really important in life and these were the simple things.....I truly wish you well

[leehow79 in reply to stde]

Hi styde, thanku very much. totaly agree wiv u, am jst cryin out 4 hlp + 2 escape this torture. hav tried suicde many yrs ago wen was ill then. ithink mst people who talk of suicide is a cry 4 hlp frm a very desperate person. normaly i wouldnt dream of thinkin like this wen i hav a daughter + family but in the midst of a brkdwn plus depression all clear thinkin goes out of the window. mst people who commit suicide do expect 2 b found, theres actualy only a small amount who do do it wiv intent. after suicide attempts in the pst myslf i totaly c now that they were a cry 4 hlp but any1 who is in that possition in the 1st place is in desperate need 2 do so. plus as u said u need 2 change ur mindset i know this but find it impossible, im a very analactic thinker as in havin very ridgid way of thinkin. really hope i can change my mindset. apreciate ur advice, plus wish u well. kindst rgards leeanne.x

[Hidden]

YES and one breakdown can come back on you. Mainly, people have to much happen in a short period of time ,but you can get over it. No one gives them self a breakdown. Nervous/mental/emotional /emotional collaspe is all the same thing. Doesn't matter what you call it,its a crack-up under pressure.