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Parents - An Anxiety Trigger

Hi, after not the best relationship with my folks growing up due to their issues with drinking and other factors which meant a very dysfunctional upbringing for myself.

I am after 10 years living back in the same town as them, they are still having issues but I now have my own life and attempt to get on with it. However, I feel obliged to pay them a visit from time to time as they are my parents and when sober not bad people.

However, every time I go there (I went this afternoon) I get the worst stomach dwelling anxiety which effects the rest of my day. Not sure what is at the root of this really, or how I can prevent it apart from avoiding them!

Just wondering if anybody has had similar experiences?

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I did .. I don't want to go into details but my family are a bit like eastenders ! .. I live away from the area where I grew up and only visit my mother twice yearly which is enough.Please don't be obliged to visit them put yourself first. I know it may appear selfish but your mental health comes first and if it makes you ill it's not worth it.. take care xx


Thanks for your response, much appreciated. It was much easier to avoid them when I lived 200 miles away! Take care.


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