Marriage Anxiety- Daily

[CCKelley84]

I don’t know about my marriage anymore. My husband constantly brings up my issues and constantly fighting. He thinks I only married him for money.... which I am the one that supports us (due to him being a trust fund baby). Constantly telling me all my bad problems. I don’t know how I feel about him anymore. It is beyond emotionally draining. I wanted children with him but not anymore. I’m lost because my family is 1200 miles away and I don’t want to start the drama with them. I am no means perfect and have my flaws in this relationship. What should I do? Advice?

[Agora1]

CCKelley84, it's definitely a wise decision in not having children with him. That would only

complicate matters. Money has always been the root of all evil. Not enough or too much.

That's because Love isn't or really shouldn't be about money. It's not enough to keep a couple together. Money can't buy good health, feelings or love.

Apparently, his trust fund is eating away at him over the years and he is pushing you away.

The feeling that it is his money and not "our money" is putting you in this difficult stressful position. In the perfect marriage, the words mine and yours do not exist.

Marriage counseling could help or at least individual counseling for you. You need support

right now. Anyone with mental health issues doesn't do well with the constant nit picking

at your well being. I'm glad you choose to come on to this support group. We may not be

able to give you the right answer, that is strictly your decision. But know that we do care

and are here to help you down this bumpy road ahead. Welcome new friend xx

[Hidden]

Hi, we are just other random people on here, this is something that someone who really knows you well could give some constructive advice, but we don't really know you. Definitely try some couples counseling, sometimes it doesn't help to keep some emotions bottled up. Express Yourself!!!!🙂

[Hidden]

Hello

I think it is one of the hardest things we can do give advice on someone's relationship especially as we do not know people personally

But I know no matter what you should not be feeling the way you do that is not what any kind of relationship should make you feel like

Deep down you know if you want this or not

I could suggest you write down how he makes you feel and see if he would read it as when emotions are high verbally talking can sometimes end up with neither listening to each other

But despite everything if you are so unhappy then no matter who you have to get involved you only have one life which you should be enjoying surrounded by people that love and respect you

I hope you find the strength to do what is right for you and remember you are worth only the best and if someone does not treat you in that way maybe it is time to move on , you know deep down if that is the case

You can always talk to people on here knowing that someone is listening to you x

[hypercat54 in reply to Hidden]

Great reply BeKind and I completely agree with you. x

[Hidden in reply to hypercat54]

Thank You

I hope you are doing ok x

[The_Lord_is_with_Us]

Get into marriage counseling ..... (Christian marriage counseling?) Christianity has a lot to say about roles in the marriage ... and about a 'sound' life and marriage in general. If he's unwilling to work on salvaging the union ......... then it's going to be difficult.

[pam4him]

So sorry for the difficult situation. Would he consider marriage counseling? It kind of sounds like he might be struggling with something internally and counseling would be a safe place for him to work through it. That anger started somewhere, but I wouldn't suggest you try to figure out, leave that to a therapist. A trial separation might also help, just be sure to set check-in appointments, do the marriage counseling homework, and go from there. Prayers for reconciliation, peace and strength.