One year since Mum died on Sunday

[Booblet]

Hi,

I'm dreading Sunday the 1st March.. It will one year since mybm beautiful Mum died.

It's been an horrendous year and I still can't think of Mum without crying.

Does it get any easier?

Love Booblet xxxxxxxxxxxx

[hypercat54]

Hi I am so sorry to hear about your mum. I lost mine nearly 7 years ago now, and the answer is yes it does get easier but only if you allow yourself the time to fully grieve her loss. There are no shortcuts to the grieving process and 1 year isn't very long. The first anniversaries are always the worst. Do whatever makes you feel better at this time, whether it's spending time with your family, taking flowers up, or spending it alone.

My sisters and I believe we got a sign from our mother. She had a plant called a day lily where the flowers only live for 1 day. She left it to one sister and they both thought it was dead as it hadn't flowered for 4 years.. Well about 2 weeks before the first anniversary of her funeral 1 little bud appeared, just 1. It flowered on the anniversary and we were awe struck. We said 'Thanks mum, we know you are OK now'. This happened again on the 3rd anniversary.

Look out for your own sign and you will find it comforting x

[Booblet in reply to hypercat54]

Thank you so much for your lovely and supportive reply..

The strangest thing here is that I too believe in things happening for a reason, I too am a very spiritulist person.

When my Mum was very ill (she had Vascular Dementia), but she was lucky enough to stay in her own home.

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Anyway, on so many occasions, in fact it was all the time near her death: There was always white feathers on her driveway...

I am so glad you got that sigh of the 'bud', and it definitely meant(and means) she is happy and she is guiding and looking after you and your sisters.

I will keep a look out on Sunday. And do you know I'm not as anxious about it now..

God bless,

Booblet

[hypercat54 in reply to Booblet]

You are very welcome my love. I will be thinking of you xx

[jonesglo in reply to Booblet]

Best wishes to you sending love and light to you❤️🙏🏽

[Smudge2522]

Hi, am so sorry to hear read about your loss it’s an extremely difficult time for you. My mum died when I was 12 which was 27 years ago this July, it does get easier with time but as hypercat54 says there aren’t any shortcuts - I didn’t deal with it at all to start with and it’s only been this year that I’ve started to fully explore what happened and started to talk about her more - so don’t follow my example and do make sure that you deal with your grief and don’t bury it deep inside you. Celebrate the good times you had with her share stories with families and friends about things that happened when she was alive and who knows you may even learn something about your mum that you didn’t know before.

Stay strong as whilst it may not seem like it at the moment you will find your way through this difficult time and definitely look out for those signs x

[Booblet in reply to Smudge2522]

Thank you so, so much for your reply, you are so kind. I'm so sorry about your mum, but your here and you got through it, and at such a tender age. I admire you so much.

I will follow your advice.

Booblet