Depressed Daughter and heart broken

My adult daughter has anxiety and she also has depression. This came about after a breakup with her 5 year relationship with her boyfriend. She is very sad and keeps asking me to help her heart. I don't know how to help her heart other than being here to listen to her. He became verbally abusive with her and just never answering her texts. I trying to think of a hobbie for her to do so her mind stays busy. I though of getting her started in making candles from scratch... maybe that would help her heal that heart of hers. Does anyone have any suggestions? I would really appreciate it..

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Hi, I have a daughter. It’s so difficult for us Mums to feel every bit of sadness our children may encounter. My heart goes out to you, to be honest, watching her suffer. She will come through this a stronger person. Even though she is at her lowest point at the moment. She will heal. Natural emotions she is expressing after a loss. She is grieving. She will get stronger as time passes.

All you can do is be there for her. She needs to find her own distractions for them to work fully for her. However, perhaps encourage her to write a journal ... write all her thoughts down, everyday. Perhaps some counselling sessions will help her work through her emotions and help her mend from her loss.

I wish you and your daughter all the very best ... she will get through this. 🍀

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Thank you so much for your encouragement! I will try to convince her to start a journal and listen more. I know being a parent is very difficult seeing your children go through these tough terrains. I thank you from the bottom of my heart and please keep us in your prayers.

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I am glad you reached out to this group. You also need support as a mom. You are doing the right things to encourage your daughter. If her sadness continues and seems to not stop after a period of time, I would recommend seeing if she will see a therapist. The break up and how he treated has affected her and how she views herself. She has to find strategies to move passed the pain of the break up and the unhealthy relationship. It starts with her learning to love herself and not focus on others for her joy. This site has some helpful article on how to build up her self-esteem and self-worth. bitly.com/

I will be praying for you. Just continue to be the awesome mom you are, encourage her and let her know you are there for her. Please know you are not alone, we are here to love and support you too. Lots of Hugs and Blessings.

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Thank you so much! I will try my best to get her out of this evil place. May God Bless you

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Just remember to pray. God will give you the guidance and strength you need to help your daughter. My prayers will continue to be with you. Hugs~

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EMB1225... you are welcome .. I spoke from being able to relate to your situation as a mum with a daughter.. You both are in my prayers. Look after your own wellbeing too .. it takes it out of us as Mothers, ! I’m talking from experience .. xx 🍀

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Thank you so much! Yes, prayer is the power to everything in life and I know this will be over and we all will be able to breath.... she has a doctors appointment today because she didn't want to take her antidepressant meds anymore and she feels that she cannot breath and sleeping is really off.. Hopefully, today we get some answers. Thank you so much for your prayers.

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It’s such a difficult stage, when you first start antidepressants ... can make you just a little bit worse before better. But sticking with them they certainly make you feel better eventually. Best of luck. 🍀

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She did try some new ones but got her too, too sick and just said she will not take. We have been working on getting her some counseling and she does have an appointment with a counsel from Australia via internet. Hopefully, she can talk to someone not being me and that can ease some of this pressure. I thank you Heidi for your prayers and advise .. Hugs....

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You know you are a mother when you think... this is it! I driving till there is no end and no return but you know darn well thats not possible you heart just weighs a ton and more when your child is needing you. I know God has something good store for everyone and I'm waiting for that moment to raise my hands and say, " I see the light". I pray and pray that my heart hurts but he will help...