Social anxiety help?

Hi anyone,

I feel struggling with social anxiety and would be very grateful of any advice. In social situations I always feel afraid to speak for fear of being judged for what I say, but also I’m afraid of being to quiet. It currently seems like I’ve few friends who actually enjoy spending time with me because I seem too boring and life is getting a little lonely.

[Cat33]

Hello

I'm so sorry that you feel like this

Do you know the song The Greatest Love Of All ? The words are so true that we need to love ourselves

Try not to worry about not speaking up I'm sure you have been in the company of people who speak up far too much I think shyness is a much nicer quality to have Just listen and try not to overthink how people see you

Do you have hobbies and interests? Being with like minded people talking about something you really enjoy is much easier and will build up your confidence

You are just as good as anyone else if you are quiet then so be it

"Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all "

Make that and This Is Me from the Greatest Showman your anthems 🤗

Good luck

I'm sure people on here get fed up with me banging on about this book but it's so good and I know it will help you

The Dare Response by Barry McDonnagh

All the best this is the first day of the rest of your life and no more thinking you are boring because everyone has qualities and I bet if you sat down and listed yours you would be very proud

Take care

[louisestace]

I am in the same situation as yourself. I suffer so much with social anxiety since my depression it’s knocked my confidence and left me so badly suffering with anxiety it’s feels like your stuck in quick sand!

I have lost so many friends since my anxiety has got worse because people think I am too quiet and boring and am not bothered about what they want to talk about but I just find it so hard to talk to people especially if there is more than one person. I get so afraid on embarrassing myself or people judging me it’s like my mind won’t switch off.

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Yes, it’s trying to cope with the fear of judgement that constantly makes me self conscious about myself. Sometimes it just makes it hard to know what to do

[Sleeplessgirl]

This is really random but I find having a lemon sherbet whenever I’m in an anxiety provoking situation like yours helps, I saw it on an advice page once and have been doing it ever since. Last year and the year before I was in this exact same spot I never said much and also feared I was boring it got to the stage of me being mad at everyone else for making me feel like this which is stupid it wasn’t their fault (well maybe partially 😅) but it comes down to overthinking things, I guarantee people don’t think your boring they probably just think your quiet and there’s nothing wrong with that some people think it’s cute even. I would argue it makes us more interesting because we have more layers to our character that we slowly reveal over time the more we feel comfortable around others. I’m afraid I can’t help with the part about the actual fear of speaking itself I still have this but I hope the other parts help 😊