Hi I'm new here on this platform and I want to know how people stop apologizing? I always apologize for anything and everything, even though it may not be my fault. I would appreciate it if someone could give advice as to deal with this.
How can I stop saying sorry constantly? - Anxiety Support
How can I stop saying sorry constantly?
Hi again AnxietyBear. I too am guilty of always saying "I'm sorry" beyond the point
of showing compassion for someone. We are the "People Pleasers" who want to
save everyone, who wants to be the person everyone likes. However, after a while
it gets annoying as well as condensing to others that you are always apologizing when
an apology is not needed. It has become a part of our vocabulary just like those
who say "hmmm" a lot between sentences. I've had people in my life tell me to
"stop saying I'm sorry" or "you never have to be sorry". I've learned from that in
finding other words that are thoughtful and caring. Variety is the spice of life and
that includes how we speak our feelings and thoughts to others. Find other words
you can use in conveying your message to someone. People pleasers are high in
number in the anxiety forum. We feel too much and tend to wear our hearts
on our sleeve. Starting today AnxietyBear, find other ways you can communicate
that doesn't put you down or make the other person feel obligated to you. xx
I'll try as well. "I'm sorry" oops I mean I care.
I have been so guilty of this myself. I stopped being an active part of conversations for a while so that I could take time to really think about my words before i spoke in a conversation. I wasn't awkward I simply just waited until asked a question or had thoroughly thought about the input I had to give. Occasionally, I would slip and just blurt out, "Sorry!" but not as often. It is interesting when you really evaluate the weight of your words this way. "Sorry" isn't the only thing I changed and maybe you will come to the same reality. Big hugs - you got this!!