Anxiety when expressing feelings

[star68]

Hi everyone,

I would like to ask how do you cope with feelings like frustration and anger when you discuss certain issues with your loved ones. A lots of psychologists say that anxiety and panic attacks comes from repressed anger and unexpressed feelings. I have always expressed my feelings, in fact I think it's only healthy to communicate your concerns and worries but when the person I am trying to express my feelings with don't try and to understand and doesn't seem to be very sympathetic I feel very frustrated and that frustration causes me to be upset followed by anxiety feelings and fear of panic, fast pulse, high blood pressure and fear of heart attack. So sometimes I feel I should not discuss certain issues for fear to feel these anxiety, fear and panic feelings.

Every time I get upset about something I feel my health is going to deteriorate because in my mind stress equals illness. What would be your advise on the subject?

Thank you

[Hidden]

I’m still trying to cope with my wife about finances. I have discussed it with her and she gets so offensive. It affects my moods too. I began to plan things out to make myself more comfortable and in controls of things. If she doesn’t accept it that is proof she sees thing only one way. Her way. When someone tries to be in control show them that they are not. This has brought me much anxiety. In addition,

she even threatens to move out. Which I have gotten used to over the years.

So what you should do is start protecting yourself. Plan things out which will be to your benefit. With such action she had been putting me through it has been a lack of trust towards her. So I take more action to protect myself. Being ready at any time. That is how it is on my part. Hope yours is better off. 🤞🏻

[star68 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for your input. I am beginning to accept that certain topics are better left alone. It happens that certain human beings can't have the capacity to understand and no matter how hard you try you are never going to achieve what you want and they will use your insecurities and weaker points to put you down.

[clayjars]

Hi, are you saying you are anxious about stress? That stress could harm you? Long term stress can be harmful, but short term stresses can just be indicators that you are recognizing something's wrong. I suppose you can look for the sources of your stress and try to resolve it. Are you stressed because your loved ones are not responding to you as you expect them to? Does that make you feel unloved or unaccepted?

[star68 in reply to clayjars]

Than you for your answer. When I have to confront loved ones (siblings) I get very stressed because there are a lots of unresolved issues from the past. I have learned that sometimes it's not worth the argument and stress, when people don't have the capacity to think deeply and analyze their behaviors, there is not point confronting them.