Why do I hate going to work in the evening?

[Ginger7]

I LOVE my job. I work with wildlife and I look forward to waking up in the morning and going to care for them. But once a week I have to start at 4pm instead of my usual 8am...and I never want to go on those days. All day I feel unhappy and I have no idea why. I've been this way for years. One of my old jobs I had to work a few evening shifts every week and all day I'd be dreading it. I've had problems with separation anxiety before, but this feels different.

Does anyone know what causes this? And how can I fix it??

[kenster1]

some of us just don't like change.we have our little daily routine that we are happy with and when that changes it can be daunting in trying to adapt.

[EleanorRose]

I agree with kenster1 , sometimes we just don’t like things which are out of our usual routine. I like my job but some days of the week I prefer to others because of things which happen on particular days. Do you hate it once you’re there or is it just the anticipation of it?

I’m sorry I can’t be more helpful, but I do think it is just ‘one of those things’. That doesn’t make it any nicer to experience, though. Could just be harder because all day you can’t really make plans because you know you have to go to work? Maybe try to create a more structured routine for yourself on those days?

[designguy]

Hello Ginger, I would suggest you go do some work with a therapist if you are not already. Specifically someone who specializes in childhood trauma, recovery and anxiety treatment. My guess is that there was probably a trauma or traumas, large or small that is making you subconsciously react that way and you need help accessing it and reprocessing it. The combination of understanding and modalities like EMDR and CBT can be helpful in your recovery and getting on with your life.