Confused

Hello. I had been doing great for a while with my anxiety. I started experiencing it again due to deaths in the family, ( my dad, Sister in law, brother in law and close uncle. I was taking 15mg of mirtazapine . I felt my anxiety was getting worse so I talked to my doctor. He upped my dosage to 30mg. I've been on it for about 5-6 weeks already. I don't feel the depression as bad as I was feeling it, but I still have some of the symptoms like- tightness in chest, back, neck and throat area. I feel a little anxious and/or scared sometimes for no reason. My question is- How long before meds take full affect. Is it about a few months? Am I just being too anxious and want it to work like NOW? Please if anyone knows would really appreciate reply. Thank you

[Fearoffear]

No medicine will completely take that feeling from you. Death is hard the feelings stay and never go away. You will be able to change your reaction to the feelings and thoughts, so that you can cope. It starts with remembering the good and smile. Sometimes you have to go into the dark to find the light but I would do that in therapy. Just know there is no wonder drug to take for death of a loved one to just go away, if there was someone would be rich enough to own the earth. My mom will be gone 10 years on Nov. 4th and I just about 6-7 months ago can talk about her without crying every time. There are marks on our hearts, that's the scars we get from everyone we love and they fade with time but never fully go away. Good luck you can get better from this and emerge a different person with more wisdom to help yourself out. Praying for you to find a happy spot in you to visit your lost loved ones.

[Hidden in reply to Fearoffear]

Thank you Fearoffear. I really appreciate your reply. Yes it's so true. I'm learning to cope better now. I too have my good days when I can remember and smile and others when I remember and cry. I will contiue to move forward. God Bless

[Agora1 in reply to Fearoffear]

Fearoffear, that is a most beautiful and touching way to express how death of a loved one affects us. I've never quite heard it explained that way. Truly something to remember. xx