Time for a tune..

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[karaph1951]

I love U2. Haven't heard any of their stuff for ages. That sounded really good. Were you able to go to the concert? How are you?

I could do with a good night out. But yesterday was the first time I went out for a whole week. Not like me at all. I'm a very sad & upset person right now.

Karen

[Hidden in reply to karaph1951]

I wasn't at that concert but I have seen them live.

I'm doing fine.

Has something upset you, Why are you sad?

[karaph1951 in reply to Hidden]

I am sort of in a relationship, around 2 years ish. Met on a dating site. All well for a while, with a few 'teething problems', but then after a while he has gone off me, inasmuch as I now feel I am in a platonic relationship.

We have nice times together going out here and there, and I know he thinks the world of me, but I am a very affectionate and demonstrative person (which I added in my profile) but now he seems to be interested in anything but me, no matter what I do or don't do. I do not want a platonic relationship, but I love the bloke to bits. So what should I do? 😢

[Agora1 in reply to karaph1951]

Hi karaph1951, Now I can see where the depression and anxiety are coming from. Sounds like you two are in different places emotionally right now. With affairs of the heart, we can never make someone be in the same position we are. It's either there or it's not. If enjoying his company in a platonic relationship is not enough, then loving him to bits is only going to make you feel lonelier. It has nothing to do with you. Do not lose your self esteem over this. You sound like you have the qualities that many men would like unfortunately it may not be what this man is looking for at this time. I'd suggest talking it over with him and if the answer isn't what you want to hear then you need to move on. Life is precious and while we are here, we need to find happiness. Take care of yourself x

[karaph1951 in reply to Agora1]

Hi Agora1,

I'm sorry I'm only just responding to your message, only just seen it.

Anyway, we have split up. But I'm glad because his childish but aggressive tantrums were getting me down and the last one on Wednesday morning was extremely frightening and he pushed me backwards onto the staircase & hurt my back & arm. His rage was terrifying.

Talking to him about stuff never worked. He just went on the defensive and wouldn't discuss anything.

So, better off without him. H

Feel like I've wasted two years of my life.

Hope all is well with yourself Agora.

Thank you for your message.

Karen.

[Agora1 in reply to karaph1951]

Karaph1951, We all have to at one time or another in our lives make hard decisions. Sometimes, something happens that makes that decision so much easier. You are fortunate that you weren't seriously injured. Wasting 2 years of your life is better than waking up one day to find your life is behind you and you robbed yourself of some happiness.

Stay safe and go forward, never looking back. This is all in the past now, keep your eyes on the road ahead. My best to you. x

[karaph1951 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you so much for that Agora. Wise words. 😊Thank you.

Karen

[Hidden in reply to karaph1951]

You could sit him down and ask him if anything is wrong, where you stand, is there a future for you together.

Just ask him to be honest.

[karaph1951 in reply to Hidden]

Only just seen this message Jim,

Can't work this site out.

Oh yes, there was a future alright, but it was all on his terms. 😕

Anyway, as you know, it's over now and I am getting better. I must have been blind, or just looking through 'rose tinted spectacles'. 😔

Looking back, the depression & anxiety got worse whilst I was with him.

Also, whilst he could be kindly & sympathetic to others & their health problems, he wasn't with me and I think he was put out that I am not 100% fit. It was inconvenient to him.

Anyway, it's gone & done with. I don't want to set eyes on him again.

I've had enough rubbish through my life.

Going to bed now & hope I get some sleep. for a change.

Hope all well with you Jim.

Night night for now.

Karen 😔

[20Voices in reply to karaph1951]

I agree, you need to find out what is happening and if there is any future for you too.

You have to find out for yourself so that you can move on, no matter what the answer is.

Take care

[karaph1951 in reply to 20Voices]

Thank you. 😊

I am only just seeing messages from 6days ago!

Everything blew up, nasty bad tempered tantrum from him, hurt my back & arm and then just tried to justify himself. And that just confirmed that he just doesn't listen, or understand.

So finished. I don't need a drama queen to make me feel worse.

I hate being on my own.

Thank you for your response.

I appreciate replays I've received.

Karen