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Hello, this is my first post even writting this is making me feel anxious. I've suffered with depression and anxiety for the last 6-7 years now it all started when i was 19 and was in an abusive relationship for 2 years I've tried counselling, I've tried so many different medications and nothing seems to help, if anything all its done is get worse over the years.

Its got to the point where its unbearable, i get shakey, lose my breath, have the feeling of dread over come me and not leave. I can never sleep and when I finally do its a struggle to wake up. I'm constantly worrying about everything. Its effecting all my relationships with my family and boyfriend. I dont feel like anyone understands or wants to be there for me. Everyone just gets annoyed and says to snap out of it or tells me to get over it which makes me constantly snappy and my mood can switch so quick over something so small because i am just full of frustration and anger.

I recently lost my job because my anxiety becomes so bad dont feel like i can physically get up and go in feeling how i am but now I've lost my job i worry and feel worse because i now have no income coming in.

I just feel really confused and dont even know where to start everything goes from bad to worse. Can someone tell me there will be light at the end of this tunnel?

Is there any advise anyone could give me to help me? I find it extreamly difficult to open up and talk about what goes on in my head it feels like a never ending nightmare :(

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Finglas-Boy

Hi Hllo 2789. I believe there must always be light @ the end of our personal "tunnels". Hope that, through the folk here, you will come to that belief too. That optimism is the one thing at gets me through the dark days. There will, I hope, come a time when you slow down & not try to take everything hing @ 100 mph. Stay in touch with people on here. I truly believe a time will come when you realise you're not alone & there will always be someone, here, you can rely on.

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maarsh

Hi Hello2789

sorry to hear about your struggles one can only imagine or relate in my case,Remember this...No situation is permanent so the struggles you face today are preparing you for the future,Your success is well ahead of you.So don't despair there's always a way out to every unpleasant situation it might not be now...But very soon

Try not to spend your days alone...yes we do need time to ourselves but too much of it brings with it unwelcomed thoughts...Thinking a lot only worsens the anxiety and depression.There are Happy thoughts and not so good thoughts.Surround yourself with friends and family or people that bring out "The Happy" in you.....They say unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it.

All the best :-)

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Agora1 in reply to maarsh

maarsh, very wise advise for all of us to remember. Hope you are doing well. x

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maarsh in reply to Agora1

Hey Hun :-)

I've actually been wondering how you been doing since our last convo but work just been toooooo hectic to even check-in #sighs

Well i'm doing ok....can't complain much....I feel good today actually hey

And how are you.....doing well i hope?

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Agora1 in reply to maarsh

maarsh, I am fine, thank you for asking. Enjoy that good feeling today.

Don't work too hard x

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maarsh in reply to Agora1

will take it easy ....

Take Care.

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Platesofmeat in reply to maarsh

Nice reply.

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BonnieSue

Hi Hello2789,

You badly need to get a doctor and a counselor, no matter how hard it is to talk about your problems you need to BIG TIME. This is your way out of your problems. You can print out what you have written here and take it to your next appointment with both people and hand it to them. That's easy enough, right? And should you not be able to print it out for whatever reason, write an email to yourself and print that out. You definitely can do that! Problem solved!

Naturally you will have to answer questions about your email and what it says. But you still can go home and write some more about anything you feel you didn't fully answer about the way you feel inside. And then hand it to your counselor or doctor the next time you see them. That way they get the whole story and can treat you and help you the best way possible. And they will get used to the pattern where you fully answer how you feel about whatever happened at your appointment at the following appointment on paper. Oh yes oh yes! That gives you thinking time to absorb what was discussed. And nothing is completely done and finished in 1 appointment. They'll get used to that.

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Platesofmeat

Hi

I found a book called "self help for your nerves" by Dr Claire Weekes a life saver.

It is old but alot of modern day behavioural therapy is really based on this.

However she goes into quite alot of detail how anxiety can cause so many different symptoms and you are not going to die or go mad.

It is just tired nerves that need healing, and the healing begins by understanding what is happening to you and it's harmless.

My best wishes to you.

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Kobojunkie

Have you ever dealt with the emotional issues you have logged since you were a child? Medication cannot solve those for you, and counseling only helps you recognise them but the work is for you to do.

I call it self-therapy as it involves you, yourself digging down into your own mind to find those fears, hurts, failures, feelings of guilt, and shame that you have yet to battle and conquer. It involves you facing them all and conquering them so they no longer haunt your life and your mind.

Those emotional burdens serve to fuel anxiety and depression. The longer you have them, the more control of your mind you hand over to anxiety and depression. It is better you deal with them now, so they do not eventually debilitate you.

It takes time to deal but when you are done dealing you will feel the load has been lifted off of you... you will literally feel a lot lighter and slowly start to experience happiness.

After that, if you still get anxiety and depression symptoms, then I suggest you go see a psychiatrist who listens to you and respects you by involving you in the decision making process, to help get you on the best treatment plan for your condition at that time.

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