Feel left out....

[Sunshine91]

Hi! This is a bit of a long shot but i wondered if anyone else's feels completey left out with there family.

Not sure if it's just me being silly.....

My sister and Mum are quite close so I always feel left out when it's just us three. I feel as though no one tells me anything at all and I constantly need to ask but even then it's a vague answer. I thought it was because my sister as a child and another on the way and as I'm not a Mum maybe they don't think I understand.

It makes me anxious but I'm not sure if I'm being over the top or if anyone else feels like this.

[Hidden]

Hello

I don't think you are been over the top at all , your feelings are your feelings and no one can say they are wrong if this is how you feel

But sometimes we can feel a certain way and others are oblivious that we do , so I would try & talk with your family and tell them how you feel , they may say you are been silly as that can be a normal reaction from people but if they do say well to me it is not silly because it is the way I feel and I wondered if you could help me by making me feel included more so I don't feel this way

I know for me I was always the "Black Sheep " as we say and nothing has ever changed that till even though it is hard I have had to try and accept it and be with people that do respect and include me but this is not always the case as I have known so many feel this way but once they have told their friends and family everything improved

Take Care x

[Sunshine91 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for replying. I get on well with my dad and we text all the time but my mum or sister never do text me and I just feel a little awkward around them if that makes sense. I feel better knowing there are other people that feel the same as me. Thank you xx

[Hidden in reply to Sunshine91]

Hello

I think when we speak out as you have we will always find someone else that has or does feel the same as we do we are never alone even though I know at times we can feel we are

It is good to know you have a good relationship with your Dad , it was the opposite for me a good relationship with my Mum but no matter how hard I tried I could never get the same with my Dad and rather than focus on what I had got with my Mum I was always searching to get the same relationship from my Dad until after years of pain I had to accept that for what ever reason that it was never going to happen , it was not easy as he was very close with my Sister and I could never understand why he could not share his attention between the both of us but I knew it was not my problem that it was something in him that was not capable of treating both his Daughters as equals

If you can ever try and speak with your Mum about how you feel then do , give her a chance to try and put this right , she may no but you will always wonder if she may so worth talking with her

If for some reason things do not improve believe me it is nothing to do with you been you but more to do with your Mum not been capable of sharing her love and attention equally between both her Daughters but this does not mean she loves you less , focus on the contact you have with your Dad and how much he cares about you

Take Care x