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Decision making is so difficult

I have always struggled with making decisions, and I believe it is because I fear that whatever I decide could have a negative effect that I am unable to foresee. This is something that has proven itself true in many instances

Now I know about confirmation bias, and try to rationalise my choices but I so often find myself stuck as I can't​ do a pro/con list to help decide as I never feel like it is a complete list and that I must be missing something obvious

Plenty of decisions have gotten easier with time and practice. Deciding on something from a menu, or grocery items etc, but for bigger, life changing stuff I really struggle.

Right now I am trying to make decisions about my career future and I feel so pressured to make the decision now and choose well. I am nearing the end of my maternity leave and I need to return to work (would love to stay at home being mum, but that's not financially viable). But it all seems to complicated and I can't seem to work it out and I'm running out of time.

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I get like this sometimes but I don't know if there is a way around it, I just grit my teeth and get on with it and it turns out ok.

I hope things will get easier for you, you can chat with me anytime you are stuck if you think it would be any help.

Good luck to you.


I also have problens in make decisions, probably because I think so much in what the others will think about my decisions, and because i have few problems of self esteem, but now I'm learning that my opinion is so right as the others, and in most of times, they won't judge you.

One thing that my psicologist say is that I always could chance my mind, if you get a job and feel that was the wrong decision, you could quit e search for another one


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