Anxiety & Life

[Lvumor]

Can anyone give me advice about anxiety & having a sex life?? My husband & I have not had relations in months I want to but scared I will have an attack I listen to the tapes podcast & read books on anxiety~Breath stay calm relax......then when when I do get excited for any reason here comes the anxiety again Please HELP!!

[RyRywifey]

Hey, I'm sorry you're going thru this, it can be very straining on a relationship, as I have gone thru it myself.if you don't mind me asking, what type of anxiety feeling is it you start feeling? Is it the fear of you having an anxiefy attack??

[Lvumor in reply to RyRywifey]

My hearth rate goes crazy I'm excited but stressed if you can understand that I feel like two people I want to be with him and he is wonderful but then I want to pull away and run to be alone

I know I'm putting me & my anxiety before him/us and I'm not that type of person

[RyRywifey in reply to Lvumor]

It's not your fault. Anxiety can be very powerful. You just have to learn how to take control again, believe me, I'm just learning how to again after a loooong year and a half of the same exact thing, so it is very possible. You really just have to allow the anxiety to be there and sort of welcome it to be there. Sort of like having your husbands friend over for dinner and inviting his wife you don't like as well because you have to, and even tho she's there, you just pay her no attention and enjoy dinner as tho she is not there 😕May be a terrible analogy but it makes complete sense to me 😩The good news is YOU are Beyond more powerful than anxiety so you have the power to do this!!! You can and will do this!!! You'll see! Please feel free to message me any time, I'm here and so are the rest of this wonderful community 💕

[DylanD in reply to RyRywifey]

Nice anaology, RyRywifey - where u mention the wife of your husband's friend.......we just have to deal with it and not let it be our main focus.

[RyRywifey in reply to DylanD]

Exactly. And thank you 😊

[Lotya]

That happens to me I just get scared .both of you go in the shower and take a bath and take it from there try it .try to take a cup camomile tea it wil make you relax