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[Anxious-bunny21]

I am 5 foot 3 inches tall and 105-106 pounds my husband says I look like a skeleton and unhealthy and need to put on weight but the doctor doesn't say anything about it.I want to make my husband happy but I am terrified to put weight on and every time I try to eat something fattening the next day I cut back on what I would normally eat

[Agora1]

Hi Anxious-bunny21, it does sound like the start of an eating disorder. Maybe you can find a therapist who can help you with your way of thinking. Apparently there is a deep seated issue regarding putting weight on. You need to do this for yourself and not your husband. I hope you get some help soon before it spirals out of control. Take care. x

[Anxious-bunny21 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you sadly this isn't the start I was overweight as a child and then finally shamed into starting to lose weight I went down 50 pounds the healthy way and then I met someone that said if you just worked out and got to 115 instead of 140 you would be perfect so I worked out and started sometimes skipping meals and such eventually went to 119 then I met a boy I liked that was a health and fitness geek so I strove to impress him and he incurraged Me and I stared hardly eating and working out over a hour a day and dropped to 100 then I couldn't do it anymore and went up to 125 but since being with my husband other then our first six months together all I have done is drop weight

[Agora1 in reply to Anxious-bunny21]

Anxious-bunny21, I am so sorry to hear that. There is always a reason behind anxiety issues and ED. Usually it's about having control in one's life but it sounds like you were shamed as well as pressured into pleasing others. You need to be in a place were you are healthy and happy for yourself. I hope you see a therapist who will work with you in getting your self esteem and confidence back . It's been torn down and only you can rebuild it. I wish you well. You've taken the first step in opening up to the group, next step is a therapist. xx

[Anxious-bunny21 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you I am going to my first therapist seeping Monday

[Agora1 in reply to Anxious-bunny21]

Good Luck dear..

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Please talk to someone about this & not let it get too out of hand. I agree with agora1 that it does sound like the start of a eating disorder. Best wishes and take care We are here for you 🙂

[Puppies]

I've had an eating disorder since I was 13. Anorexia, bulimia, compulsive overeating. I think being molested also caused my eating disorder, depression and anxiety. People say I'm thin, but I feel and see myself as inadequate, fat and not worthy. I think being molested and my mother picking him over me caused my depression so I focused on my weight, something I could control. I don't want you to get spiraled into something like this. It might help to talk to a therapist before it gets out of control. Also, you shouldn't have to change yourself to please someone.

[Anxious-bunny21 in reply to Puppies]

Thank you for opening up to me my story is pretty similar to your I was a thin child till the age of 5 when my parents got devoriced and then at about six years old my uncle molested me and I began to gain weight till by the age of 15 I was over 180 pounds and then into my above mentioned story

[Lavelock67]

Well, on a standard Female BMI Chart you are just barely under the healthy point which is likely why the doctor isn't concerned. So you could gain a few pounds and be perfect for your frame especially if you are thin boned. It's not unhealthy to be at that current weight for your height. Some people just normally are thinner than others. But you certainly shouldn't allow yourself to lose any more weight than that. Here is a link to the chart diethealthclub.com/do-you-k... If you feel fat at your current weight then it might be the start of a mental / eating disorder and you should seek help to feel good about your body. Work out, lift weights, strive to be strong skinny if you are naturally thin. If you are at your thinnest now and getting thinner seek help right away as it could be more than just mental.

[Anxious-bunny21 in reply to Lavelock67]

Thank you I do feel fat so much of the time like a discussting slob .I used to work out and I loved it but even with the muscle do to my worse eating habits at the time I only weighed 100 pounds I would love to work out again but I am on the road with my husband a over the road truck driver so I can't

[AshleyG88]

Its a battle and mind over matter situation. I am 5'2 and I was 170lbs I felt terrible I started plexus exercised constantly I got down to 130 and I looked like I was on drugs. I looked terrible... What I am trying to say is if you feel comfortable how you look do not stress it. With your anxiety you may not be able to gain weight bc its a daily battle with food for you.

[AshleyG88]

Just do not let it get out of control and develop an eating disorder hunny!!!