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[sheffman]

i feel like my life has stopped, im a carer for my father so had to move back in with him when im 35 yr old, i cant go out or i start sweating, and get butterflys, i go days without showering which isnt me, i just dont know what to do

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Hello

Caring for someone can be a very difficult job and caring for a family member can be even more difficult

35 is still young and I can imagine you feel like your life has stopped

I know we can feel responsible if it be a family member that it is our duty if ever they need looking after but this is not always the case especially if it is affecting you to the degree which it is doing

You really need to talk to someone

I am not sure of the severity of you Dad's needs but is there anyone else that could either take on the role or at least share it with you ?

I would speak to your Doctor , be open and honest , there is nothing to be ashamed of whatsoever , they can maybe arrange for someone to come in from Social services to share the role with you so you can get some of your life back and have a break but if you are honest with them how you feel they should certainly make this better for you as well as giving you some support with what sounds like the starts of anxiety and depression that you seem to be showing the signs of , no one will want to see you going down that path so please make a start and ask for help

Take Care x

[Agora1]

sheffman, in the last 6 years, I have gone back and forth taking care of my mother as well as my daughter. I felt pulled in so many directions. After all this was my duty as a daughter as well as a mother but I couldn't handle the stress. That is when severe anxiety took over along with agoraphobia. I barely got to attend my mother's funeral because of my fears and anxiety. And now I have my 26y.o. daughter who suffers from anorexia and on the edge of dying. This has been the most difficult time of my life and so I can completely understand what you are going through as well as what you are feeling. It is scary having someone depend on you when you also are not

feeling well. The signs you are showing are anxiety with depression. I hope there is

a way for you to get some relief time where you can refresh your mind and body.

You need that or you will burn out fast. It's a full time job physically and emotionally.

Sending my best to you. Please take care of yourself.....