Help explaining health anxiety...

[-manda-]

Trying to explain to my husband what it feels like everyday living with this also depression and he's just not getting it!! Exasperated to say the least. So looking for some help maybe hearing it from others may help in knowing it isn't just me feeling this way.

[Jodi3]

I had a blazing row with my partner over the same thing? Is your husband afraid of anything that you know of? My partner is terrified of rats. When things had calmed down I explained to him that the constant panic feels how he would feel being shut in a room full of rats, but all the time. Every ache, every pain makes me think I'm dying (what I'm most afraid of) and sends my body in to panic as if he were being locked in that room. He seemed to understand how scary it must be for the thing your most afraid of to be happening to you and you can't do anything about it. It sounds crazy and a bit harsh but it worked and he has been much more understanding. I also explained how I feel when I start to panic and he now knows the signs to look out for. I really hope you work things out xx

[-manda- in reply to Jodi3]

Aww thanks so much for replying, and nope I've tried that he isn't afraid of anything so he says...I will make him see don't know how but I will...I just find it so hard to put into words xxx

[austinluck21 in reply to -manda-]

No matter how "tough" a guy is, he is afraid of something... For instance not only do I have health anxiety, but also I am very afraid of losing my grandparents. So I'd describe it like this to myself theoretically... Imagine your grandpa having a heart attack and having to go into open heart surgery, and then be told that there's pretty much a 50/50 chance of him surviving the procedure, and that time while you're waiting for him to get out o surgery feels like years. I don't know something like that... it's really hard to explain. lol

[Jodi3 in reply to -manda-]

Well I'm always here if you need someone to talk to, and I promise to understand. You will sort things out xxxx

[Hidden in reply to Jodi3]

Hello there, unless people experience this stuff they don't understand it. I would never have believed how bad it can be until you experience symptoms yourself.

It's hard! 😢

J x

[allnew2me in reply to Hidden]

Exactly what I was about to say so I second what Jill says xx

[Hidden in reply to allnew2me]

How are you doing yourself?

[-manda- in reply to Hidden]

Are you asking how I'm doing?

[allnew2me in reply to Hidden]

Hmmmm, heading back down the slippery slope at the moment, trying to catch myself before I fall too far. Tomorrow is a new day and hopefully a far less stressful one.

How are you at the moment? Xx

[Hidden in reply to allnew2me]

I'm ok thanks, how's the driving going? 🚘

[allnew2me in reply to Hidden]

I love it 😆

Not sure other road users do but I do 😂😂😂

It's a month tomorrow 🚙🚗🚘 xx

[Hidden in reply to allnew2me]

Really month already... jeez!! 🚖🚗 x

[allnew2me in reply to Hidden]

Yep 13th January was my day. Still can't believe it but it seems so long ago at the same time xx

[Hidden in reply to allnew2me]

I remember the night before you nearly cancelled it didn't you!! Glad you didn't broom broom......🚗

[allnew2me in reply to Hidden]

I'm sooooo glad I didn't.

I was scared if I failed it would give my anxiety and depression some big time fuel and make me fall down further. That was so scary burning am so glad and relieved it's done. I never wish to do again and I will definitely push my boys into getting it done at 17/18 xx

[-manda-]

Thanks guys, fighting a loosening battle here me thinks, but I will keep trying to make him see how I see things xx really appreciate your support x

[Hidden in reply to -manda-]

Read out some of the posts on here to him, maybe help him understand a bit better.. maybe? just a thought x

[-manda- in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, I have tried and will keep trying I have to, he's my best friend and I don't want to ever loose him. He's so trying to understand only problem is I'm sure he thinks it's something I can just snap out off xx

[Hidden in reply to -manda-]

I get that.. it will take time though.. I think it's because it's not like a cold or the flu where people can see your symptoms as in eyes streaming, sneezing, coughing... etc.

We look ok so... you know what I mean? 😧 x

[-manda- in reply to Hidden]

This is one of the very reasons I love this site, wonderful people like yourself, it's so nice that people just get you and how we just know it's so, i dunno it just calms me and that's a plus, thanks again xx

[Hidden in reply to -manda-]

I get you, we all do. You will get better and be ok, you will.

J x

[-manda- in reply to Hidden]

Really appreciate your comments they mean a lot, and wish is all better days x

[-manda- in reply to -manda-]

Wish us all better days I meant 😊X

[Hidden in reply to -manda-]

Manda, how you doing today? 🙋

[-manda- in reply to Hidden]

Hi again, doing better than I was this morning, my daughter stayed at a friends last night on her first sleep over, so worried like any parent would but I think I worried more as that's how we roll lol, so had a little attack not too bad, I calmed myself down took a little walk. How are you doing today x

[Hidden in reply to -manda-]

I'm ok thanks, nothing new really, just having a quiet day xx

[-manda- in reply to Hidden]

Good good, having a chilled day too being arty with my daughter while the hubby watches the football x

[Hidden in reply to -manda-]

That's good, enjoy rest of your day. I am taking a break just now from all the valentine cards- massive sack arrived this morning!!! Ha ha ✉✉✉✉ x

[-manda- in reply to Hidden]

Haha, I'm leaving my pile that arrived until the morning 😀 X