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Downward spiral πŸŒͺ

Tomorrow marks the 9th anniversary of my dad's sudden death and although I promised myself I would be strong this year I can feel myself getting tense and upset already no matter how hard I am trying to not let it get on top of me. Every year it sets my depression and anxiety in to overdrive.

Do any of you have any tips to relax and help me get through tonight and tomorrow as panic free as possible? I feel so on edge like the slightest thing could send me on a downward spiral.

I know I have been posting a lot but thank you all for being so helpful and kind x

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Hello there, sorry to hear about your dad, must be so difficult. I'm not really sure what to suggest but maybe tonight have a nice bath with your favourite music..... and tomorrow treat yourself to something nice... something new to wear or maybe book in for a massage or nails maybe.

It's never easy but be nice to yourself your dad wouldn't want you to be so sad and upset.

I'm not sure I've helped but best wishes to you! πŸŽπŸ‘ πŸ‘’πŸ‘œπŸ‘—

J x

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Thanks Jill, I took you advice and relaxed last night with a bath, a hot chocolate and a good book. Today I went and treated myself to a lunch out with my friends (I can't believe I even left the house let alone to see other people) and have so far managed to stay panic free. Thank you so much for being so kind xx


Awww Jodi thats good to hear. I was going to get in touch earlier but wasn't sure. I hope you are ok! 🌷🌹 x


What would your Dad want....if he is looking down he will be sad to see you like this after so long...

Now is the time to move on, write him a letter telling him how you felt by losing him, then make him happy by getting on with life....

I,m sure it will lift both your spirits.....Bless

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Thank you. I've kept your comment in mind this afternoon and been panic free. the letter idea is wonderful xx


Jodi, sorry about your dad. The loss of losing a dad suddenly is difficult because of all the things you wanted to say. I too, lost my father suddenly. The emotional pain was unreal. I took out a permanent Guest Book on Legacy.com. On the anniversary of his death, his birthday, holidays etc I write to him. It makes me feel better, like I have a direct line to him which gives me comfort. Remember your dad is only a thought away


Thanks Agora1, that's such a lovely thing to say. Not a day goes by where I don't think of him, I miss him sorely. The idea of having a way to talk to him is something I have thought about and after seeing this I am going to start. Hope you are okay xx


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