Just been told that I have P.T.S.D.

[joe69]

Hi,Folks

Am joe69, I've been on multi pain concern sites.

But, most recently I have been diagnosed as to having P.T.S.D.

On which the case in question happened nearly 20yrs ago, between 1995/98. While I was in a very abusive relationship.

Am so unsure now, as to what has triggered this today.

Am feeling so angry and annoyed with myself. Am not my usual self. I feel very distant from others.

This may shock some of you, "it's mainly females, I don't like to be on my own with.

Thanks for taking time to read this.

Joe

[Hidden]

Hello Joe

No I am not surprised that you are male and you were in an abusive relationship it happens to both females and males and the pain and trauma it causes is just the same and how it affects both sexes

Please do not be angry with yourself you have no reason to even though this may have come as a shock to you but talk to others that understand how anxiety affects us and get all the support and help that is on offer because you deserve it

I read about you been on the Pain sites on HU and wondered if you had come across the Community on HU for PTSD , I will put the link on in case you have not seen this Community the more support you can get the better

Take Care x

healthunlocked.com/healmyptsd

[Hidden]

Hi. Why are you feeling angry with yourself? Are you to blame for someone abusing you - absolutely not. It would be more appropriate if your anger was directed at the abuser - not in a violent kind of way of course. It is perfectly fine to feel anger in those circumstances - in fact I would say it is necessary to feel an amount of anger. And no I am not surprised at your reaction to females - there are female abusers too, though this is less talked about than male on female abuse. Some men feel shame that the abuser was female - why? Its the abuser who should be feeling shame.

Abuse often leads to a loss of trust in others - so again I am not surprised that you feel 'distant'. That trust will return.

You are right to wonder about triggers - it is good to be able to avoid them. Have a think back at what you were doing or thinking - you might be able to pick up a clue.

Karl

[joe69 in reply to Hidden]

Oh, I know what's triggered this...It ain't something I can really get into....

It's going to take time and healing for this to go away.....

Joe

[Hidden in reply to joe69]

Thats ok - at least if you know what triggered it then you can deal with it - so good news

Karl