What's happening???

[fadedlizard]

Please everyone stop, don't move ....

I've just logged on to see so many valuable and valued members have deleted and gone.

Please ... I don't know what's wrong or what's happening but please come on and talk to us. Please come back and talk to us.

Let us help sort it out.

Love

Lizard.xxx

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I'm stumped it seems so sad

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Grogs gone too.... you ok liz? Whywhy you still here?

[fadedlizard in reply to Hidden]

Pretty crap day on all fronts really, Eve.

Hope you're ok.xxx

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Yea , little flag waving , I tried to keep them all , looks like I failed

xxx

[fadedlizard]

I can see your flag WhyWhy, so sad - what on earth has happened?? I'm on my phone and Snap man keeps getting in the way. I'll post properly when I get to the laptop.xx

[wallflower_fairy]

I've noticed this too. It's just happened gradually, all day. I know about ScraggaMuffin leaving, she even sent me an email to explain why.

Then I saw Bertty leave.

Now grogboy and baylien have left - and I'm stumped.

[fadedlizard in reply to wallflower_fairy]

Hi Fay,

Good to hear from you. I knew Muffin had left this morning (I understand why ~ give her my love and tell her to come back soon ~ we love her and miss her) but everyone else ...

No, love, of course it's not your fault. You've never been anything other than kindness it's self to everyone on here

I'll miss Baylien so much. His strength and wisdom meant so much to me. Grog was so funny and so caring and I was enjoying getting to know Berty. It's just so sad.

Glad you're still here too.xxx

[wallflower_fairy in reply to fadedlizard]

Well as far as I know, bertty felt marginalised and not accepted by a few minority members of the group. He didn't mention their names but he gave some reference as to who they might be (I have no idea...not that I want to know).

Muffin left for her own reasons, but I know grogbog mentions in his blogs maybe he feels he should have tried harder, I'm sooo frustrated because I really wanted to comment and tell him it wasn't his fault! But I can't now because he's not here. So now he's gone. And I know Baylien must have went before that, but why, I have no idea. I think it was a knock on effect of one person leaving and other people doing the same in response for various reasons. But it only adds to the domino effect of people leaving.

It's a real shame. Not just that they have left and we'll miss them (as I was saying to whywhy, during her decision making, leaving came sometimes be a sign that a person is getting better and thus forth symbolise a happy ending - and, this may sound a little harsh, people need to understand that and not convince a person who is deciding to leave for all the right reasons to stay.) but it's also a shame that these people felt they had no other alternative but to leave. And that they no longer have the support of friendly users and professionals on here when it might still be of benefit to them.

I worry for these people.

Maybe, in a couple of days, some might come back, personally I'm not sure about Muffin - she seems so certain this time.

xxxx

[fadedlizard in reply to wallflower_fairy]

I totally agree. No-one should feel obliged to stay if they have outgrown the site or find it no longer meets their needs but conversely no-one should leave because they no longer feel supported or find the site is creating more anxiety than it solves.

This site is really special: a tightknit community capable of such a fantastic level of care and support. I'm just really sad that none of them felt they could hang around long enough to talk it through.

[wallflower_fairy in reply to fadedlizard]

Exactly. Well let's keep our fingers crossed. Not all is lost. Come back to us...

xx

[wallflower_fairy]

Basically most the best, well known people.

It's awful! I always wonder if somehow it's my fault!

But I'm glad you're still here - everyone on this thread. xx

[BriarRose]

I don't know, Liz, the site's in meltdown, and so am I nearly!

Please, please, if anyone knows how to contact Berrty and the others, ask them to reconsider - we love them all!!!

Please don't anyone else leave!!!!

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{stay}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

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[fadedlizard in reply to BriarRose]

Hi Rose,

Glad you're still here, darling.

I feel as though I might meltdown too.

It's just so sad

[BriarRose in reply to fadedlizard]

I'm not going anywhere, Liz, wouldn't know what to do without this site! But I just think its so sad that people have felt they had to - specially Berrty, who felt he was being "got at" because of the nature of his illness!

Yep, I'm with you in

xxxxxxxxxx

[fadedlizard in reply to BriarRose]

Breaks my heart too. Anxiety and depression manifest in so many ways. We've all got our struggles. Some people's scars are on the outside, some on the in but they're there all the same and we all need to be treated with gentleness and respect. The road to recovery is hard enough.

[wallflower_fairy]

GROG IS BACK!!! xx