bad day

[Eshepard]

I was in an emotional, sometimes physical, abusive relationship. After almost two years he eventually had a rage attack and left me, saying he’s into another girl and he’s tired of us. That happened one month ago. After the abuses I started to suffer from depression and agoraphobia, and today was a bad day. I wonder if he was really becoming the gentle and loving man I wanted him to be. I feel alone and I want to contact him and talk to him. I feel lost, I really thought I could spend the rest of my life with him and I think that maybe nobody else will love me like him.

[hypercat54]

No he never could be no matter how much you wished he could. Lots of 🚩🚩🚩🚩. Run a mile before you let him back in your life. Men (nor women) change like this and its useless wanting them to.

[Shnookie in reply to hypercat54]

Totally agree with you.

[Eshepard in reply to hypercat54]

Thank you, hearing things as they are make me always open my eyes. Have a great life and a great day

[optimismrus]

It's common for some of us to break off a relationship that's not working, then after a short time start blaming ourselves. You probably shouldn't contact him and instead work on being your own best friend. You deserve more. 🥰

[Shnookie in reply to optimismrus]

Excellent advice

[Eshepard in reply to optimismrus]

Thats absolutely true, I’ll be my own best friend, thank you have a great day and life !!

[hypercat54]

 Eshepard I noticed this is the 3rd post you have put up and had 11 replies so far. I can't see you have responded to any of them.

Is there a reason why as people will eventually stop replying to you if they get no feedback if they don't know you have seen any of their replies? Or whether they were helpful or not.

Not having a go or anything but just curious.

[Edward3000 in reply to hypercat54]

Hey, yes that must be frustrating, but i say with kindness and respect. It sounds like you want external validation 🤔 You have to post without expecting anything in return, this will help with more peace inward 😁

[hypercat54 in reply to Edward3000]

No. The only reason I answer posts is if I think I can help someone. There is no point in spending time and energy if you don't know whether they have seen it.

I say with kindness and respect that you have been here 4 days so please don't impose your values on me. Thank you.

[Edward3000 in reply to hypercat54]

Im sorry if your triggered but I will not feed into your response. Have a great night 🙂

[hypercat54 in reply to Edward3000]

Sorry. Not triggered at all actually. Just putting you straight.

[Edward3000 in reply to hypercat54]

Oh your right its not triggered. It's your EGO.

[hypercat54 in reply to Edward3000]

No - yours!

[Eshepard in reply to hypercat54]

Hi, I’m actually struggling with severe depression so I struggle to reply even to loved ones. I usually like everyone’s comments and I intend to respond to thank all people when I’ll get better!! Dont worry, don’t feel guilty for your curiousness

[Cpearl in reply to Eshepard]

Hi, I totally get where you are coming from about failure to reply. Sometimes it's overwhelming to have what seems like a ton of people coming at you with their well meaning comments. And sometimes you simply don't know what to say in response. I have posted in my desperation at times and then went off to busy myself so as not to think and not gotten back to this site. It's ok. Do whatever you need to for yourself. It takes time, lots of it, so give that to yourself. Take your time....

[Edward3000]

Hey 👋 I just read your story, and I am truly sorry you had to live in such an unsafe place. I can't imagine what your going thru emotionally. This guy sounds like he has a lot of unresolved past situations. The trigger he has been going thru has been clouding his mind from the present moment. When men like that they need time alone to fight thru their own self worth. Sometimes it takes rock bottom, but know this for yourself. What he's going through is not because of you. Right now your emotions and mind is in high intensity mode, and you won't be able to control it unless you do a few things, but you must be brave enough for the next steps. The emotions are going to come in waves once they come embrace them, think where do I feel this in my body? And then name the emotion, sad, mad ... after practice you will be able to back track each emotion to your own past. Could be childhood, teen years or young adult. This will give you a better understanding of yourself, and then after more practice you will be able to control the waves of each trigger. You must know that even after what he did to you, you still love him and that us because you must find your own self worth, because you deserve better. Once you focus on yourself and your own needs. Life will just follow in place. NOW fight thru each wave with a brave heart and a strong mindset and win this battle for YOU.

[Eshepard in reply to Edward3000]

Thank you so much for all the advices and considerations, I’ll try to do and think this way next time I’m down, have a great day and life

[Cpearl]

Hi, love is hard. No don't contact him, let him go and abuse someone else. Loving someone that treats us this way wears down your self esteem and makes you believe no one else could ever love us. But the truth is someone else could love you more than you ever dreamed possible. He is NOT the person. As hard as it is now, let him go and don't allow him back into your life. You deserve to be treated with love, gentleness, and respect. Don't accept anything less. Love yourself more than that. Never again allow anyone to treat you in a way that doesn't reflect the beauty of what love really is.

[Eshepard in reply to Cpearl]

You’re perfectly right, thank you so much. I hope you have a great day and life

[RLSSCARER]

Sometimes people get sick from infection that causes encephalitis psychosis or a manifestation of mental issues, different infections require different treatment, encephalopathy is a chronic disease to manage and Dysfunctional psychosis on a neurological basis can cause coma, fungi infection, yeast infection, parasites, protazona and mold, can all cause encephalitis psychosis, nobody is immune from such illness, however Dysfunctional relationships don't change unless you make efforts to be well and hygienic.

[Pitalife]

Easy to say but get outta that relationship..it never works out n life's to short

[SsgCulldelight]

Hey Lady, you are still powerful, vibrant and beautiful, having someone confirm that which you already Know is icing on the cake, I iinnerstand your challenges, You have to accept them, learn the lesson and be better for it. I know that's a hard road, however the alternative is you turn it in on yourself, hence the depressive mind at state. Know that This is a CHOICE, just like you chose him and he you the familiar presence of him stays because you put energy into those relationships, he misses you too, don't think our believe he doesn't because you guys shared a physical and spiritual connection, body and mind record EVERYTHING so it's not so easy to separate from what you Know. Every relationship has not and pain I don't know why people think it doesn't. It's like we get blinders when our sig other upsets is out does the bad thing, we are surprised because we don't want texpect or believe they would do such a thing. Sweetie I found out, expectation is more a relationship killer than money issues. We are not here to live up to anyone's expectation except our OWN, however that is not the reality we are taught or conditioned to believe. We go to a psych we expect they will solve our issue, so they? Rarely. We go to a doctor we exist they can cure us if whatever ailment, do they? No and rarely. We do a plethora of mundane tasks and activities, we expect we're going to be successful, are we? Most times when we CHOOSE the correct plan and execute it to A T. my point, CHOICE is the blessing we ask seen to ignore, every fact of our lives hinges on the Choices WE make concerning ourselves and others which we ONLY have control of that which WE choose. It's not about fault although the other party is wrong or guilty of committing an act that we are severely displeased with the out come and how it affects us, how we feel about said act or response. So pick up YOUR marbles and find someone to play with that respects the rules and wants to play the she have with you, I use that analogy because we are ALL just big kids with bigger toys, problems, insecurities, and everything else that comes with growing up. Once a Man/Woman twice a child is soooooooo, True. Find yourself spiritually Lady, love yourself, be kind and fair and require the she from EVERYONE you freak with, you'll see how fast and small your circle gets when you walk in That reality. Many people are Not ready for that because they'd rather live in a reality THEY control and that's the truth. Look at the fine awesome things you have accomplished thus far, in sure u have many more challenges to face, but you are here now, not broke up physically, you have a home, did when you like it, lights, a car to travel when you can or feel like it, clean clothes money, you have more than the basic necessities and you can walk, so many don't have that and most of all you have CHOICE. Tell him how you feel what he will miss and knock him out with this "don't bring up what he did or didn't do, keep the convo clean and targeted on what YOU are doing that is positive, exclude his involvement in anything".I'll get at u a Lil layer love n light

[casablancalover14]

Hi, I am sorry you are going through this hard time in your life. Sometimes we fall in love with someone who is really not meant for you, or the timing is not right for the both of you. Try to just work on yourself, and hopefully he will get his life in order. Love yourself, cause you are so important , and maybe he'll realize that one day. Keep smiling, you're a beautiful person.🐦🐦

[RLSSCARER]

Some relationship are not compatible, however we all have the power to love one another, my message reflects on common causes of mental health issues and disease related neuropathy, if its happening, its happening for a reason, medication can induce a worsening of mental health problems via neurological Dysfunction, infection is connected to mental health issues, however there's no paratology in the medical system, yet toxicity from many environmental factors and dormant infectious can influence how well we feel.

[RLSSCARER]

Normal human behaviour is to love one another, sometimes people become ill and make poor decisions and reactions, stability and love can be difficult to find as many stressful situations trigger Dysfunctional behaviour, getting help for someone with psychopath traits, is extremely important, what does love do next is the question i ask my self when dealing with psychopaths.