Shivering and heart racing

[Tulip2407]

Hey I have been having this feeling that my heart is pounding and I feel difficult to breathe when someone raises voice. This is very specific when my partner and I end up in argument and when he starts screaming or raising his voice I get these anxiety restless. I feel like running away or just reverse everything tht is happening.

My emotions are all over the place, I see them more like harmonal and triggered as I get upset by these stuff. I tried checking my BP and heart rate it's within range but I get these feeling of losing everything. I think I need to talk to a therapist or something not sure how to deal with this.

[LoveforAll41]

Hi Tulip, I am sorry that you are going through these tough things. I have a lot of issues around yelling from growing up with my Dad. When my wife gets frustrated and raises her voice my default reaction is to jump to the conclusion that it is my fault and I have done something wrong and I am a failure. Did you grow up where there was a lot of yelling and it threatened your sense of security as well? Anyway, therapy has been good to see why I am so upset by it and why and work on what I can to improve myself. I think therapy is the best, and don't be content if you don't mesh with your therapist, keep looking for a good one. Hopefully your partner will support you in this and see that you are trying to better yourself. I wish you peace and hope. ☮️

[Tulip2407 in reply to LoveforAll41]

Answer to your question is kind of yes. I have seen more anger issues that my dad had and arguments that we will have with mom or other family members. Although he never raised voice on us but environment was not very positive specifically when u grew up in close neighborhood full of immediate families.